why am i so sad after 7 years i miss my mom she died of cancer?

Answer 1

I am sorry for you. I lost my mother 3 years on thanksgiving and every day I miss her. I lost her to colon cancer that spread to the rest of her body. I know what you are feeling and I hate that it hits me even more on her death day and on her birthday. I sometimes wish that I can see her alive just one more time so I can ask her if there was anything more I could of done for her when she was going through that. I was blessed to have taken care of her at home till the end. But you will always be sad for your mother because that love you received from her, you will get nowhere else. God bless you.

Answer 2

Because EVERYONE handles grief differently. There is no right way or wrong way to grieve or miss someone. Everyone has to do it their own way. Your way is harder than most and I'm sorry for you for that, I'm sure your Mother would rather have you remember only the good times and think fondly of times spent together.

However, when people have diseases such as cancer, their last days are rarely pleasant, and we get the negative things about their last days stuck in our minds. This is doing our loved ones a "disservice." After all, she lived long enough to give birth to you, raise you and taught you well enough that you love her enough to miss her. This means you had years, if not decades together. For her sake, start writing down as many of the good times as you can remember. Make a notebook out of it, with nothing but positive stories, about going to families houses for holidays, school meetings that ended positively, birthday parties, Mother's day cards, etc. Don't dwell on how she died, or the fact it was painful, that's just a part of death and what makes death dreadful.

Celebrate the lives she left behind and all that she accomplished while she lived, and those she inspired to do good and that have her in their memories.

Answer 3

Mine passed of cancer fourteen years ago and I still miss her very much.

Part of it I think is the fact that I feel like she died too soon, cancer took her at age 53. She died when my son was an infant, he missed out on having a grandmother, she missed out as well.

Also the fact that so many of my friends still have their parents is a constant reminder that my mother is missing.

I imagine its that way with you as well. With the holidays fast approaching thats another reminder that our loved ones are not with us. Love on others, don't spend your time feeling sad and lonely. Bake treats for the local homeless shelter or go to a nursing home and visit with the residents. Whatever you do, spread love and kindness and it will make the holidays alot better for you.

I bake bread for the local women's shelter and I take flowers to the nursing home residents in honor of my mother's memory and it helps alot.

Answer 4

My Mother passed away in 1974. I'm still grieving and cry a lot. I find that my feelings are different. I don't love as much. I don't care as much. My family has suffered because of it. The grief I feel doesn't leave. Sometimes it's dormant. I have so many regrets over the years but have felt helpless to change it. I've broken my families heart. It's not normal to be this way but, I don't know what to say to people.

Answer 5

I feel the same way and it doesn't get any easier. Were you younger when she passed? That could be part of it. My mom died of cancer when i was 16 and I am now 23. It almost feels like it is harder year after year (like with graduation, birthdays, etc.) and I am now getting married next saturday and it is soo hard. I take antideppressants and talk to a counselor to help me overcome it all

Answer 6

If it was me I would still be sad too. It is your mother and she is the reason why you are on this earth right now. I have not lost my parents but my husband has lost his father and brother to cancer and it has been longer than 7 years for them and he is still sad especially when birthdays and the day they pasted is near. It is only normal to be sad. Just carry her with you in your heart everyday. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

I am sorry. My grandma died 14 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of her. I've even had other grandparents die since then. There are just some people that will always be a part of who you are. I strive to become a person that would make my grandma proud.

Answer 8

The lose of a mother leaves the world a lonely place for most of us. Lost mine 35 yrs. ago & I still miss her. Still I know I am so lucky to have a memory of her. Many do not. Hold on to them. It would be much lonelier with out them. Do you have sisters or aunts who share those momories. Talk to them about her. It may make you weep but maybe there are tears you need to get rid of. Sometimes those memories can bring back smiles too. Funny stories about her. Do this with somebody who shared love for her might help. Know me & my sisters often share stories about her. Know the remember whens. Take you back to better times before the cancer. We have cried but we have also laughed. Prayers for you.

Answer 9

i ask your self what your undesirable mom could think of if she observed you presently. that's an extremely unhappy and tragic concern that she gave up the ghost. and of direction you omit her. yet I placed this forward to you: extremely of wallowing in self pity and misery and destroying your existence in the approach i could project you to place all your potential into transforming into to be the guy your mom could be pleased with. you may not substitute the reality that your mom is long gone. you may substitute the way you look at your existence and how you handle it. It sounds to me that by using your habit you're certainly turning your lower back on your mom. it is a actual shame. the 1st concern you'll be able to desire to do is verify you certainly need to advance your existence. Then comes the not undemanding section. you'll be able to desire to tell a depended on grownup approximately your drug use and get into therapy so as which you would be able to alter into finished lower back. this merely isn't undemanding. you're at a crossroads on your existence. Take the easy street and don't something to stop your downward spiral and you'd be homeless, in penal complex or lifeless. Take the not undemanding course and after a while of not undemanding paintings your existence will start to advance. I promise. not something comes undemanding or with out not undemanding paintings. in case you may not now do this for your self, then do it on your mom. She could be proud in the top.

Answer 10

I lost my mom 2 and a half years ago to pancaratic cancer and I really relied on her and I'm very lonley for her sometimes I really want her back if only for a momet. If your mom and your relationship was like mine you were her world and she was yours. I'm really sorry for your lose. may God be with you. Thrers no pain I ever went through that ever hurt so bad as this does just keep on trucking and if you have kids hold on to them it helps my oldest daughter just made my a grandmom now I know how proud my mom was when I made her one, I really wish she were here to see her great grandchild cause I was an only child. oh well i guess it wasn't ment to be,,,,,,,,,,,,,