HELPP! what would you do if.. (ten pts to best answer)?

Question

ok so i am a senior in high school, last night was my fall dance.there was this guy @an afterparty..but picture this guy: cute but not "hot", SO INNOCENT & realllly (i cant emphasize enough) SHYYY. he doesnt get girls often and he is really inexperienced-hes had a couple kisses but thats it

to make the story short, we were upstairs just hanging out, having a great conversation &laughing. then we kissed (keep in mind, this is an innocent shy guy) but after only like 2or 3minutes, he said, "wanna go back downstairs?"

this has me confused-i know im NOT a bad kisser &i do know that hes definitely into me

a friend who is friends w/ him says that he, being ashy innocent guy who doesnt usually get action, had no idea what 2 do or was too shy to go further-but i am still confused-i mean what guy doesnt want 2nd or 3rd base after 1st? is this normal for inexperienced guys? whats going on in his head?

advice is appreciated. please dont say hes just not into me
i no this is long sry!

I SWEAR IM NOT A SLUT haha!! ok i sound like one in this question. im not desperate, i just was confused as to why HE wouldnt want that stuff to happen (not that i'd necessarily do it).

sorry about the confusion. as you were!

Answer 1

Well, truth is maybe he isn't in to you...but we don't know that...if he truly is shy then that's likely your answer right there...for some shy people, it wouldn't matter how much they wanted to kiss more, or make out, or have sex, if he's inexperienced and nervous, it's likely he took the safer, more comfortable route and decided to go downstairs where he KNEW how to behave and there was less chance of embarrassing himself.

Fear can surpass libido, even in a teenage boy...so don't write him off just yet...be patient with him...and realize you may have to make some or most of the first moves...

Answer 2

He may have been nervous after the kiss and didn't want to go further...not that he's not into you, but there are some guys (very few) that aren't male pigs and can actually control themselves. Not all of them think with their d**** and actually have some respect for women. Don't be hard on him for being shy or "inexperienced." He may be the best thing you ever find. Give him a chance. I learned the hard way that the shy, quiet ones can often be gold. K...10 points, pretty please? :-)

Answer 3

Girl, you should appreciate the fact that a guy doesn't want to put you in an awkward situation. Not all guys want to get naked just because he kissed you. Or maybe he does, but he respects women enough to know that sex is not the way to go if he wants to show a lady he likes that he cares for her. And that is probably how he looks at you is as a lady and not a lay. Be glad there are decent guys out there!

Answer 4

soedj: what it is ... is this. He is shy and being a "shy guy", he doesn't get much action. So; he has finally has a chance with a girl (you). You initiate kissing and he just "eats it up". Now; he is thinking, "I don't want to blow this", and breaks off the kissing. He heads downstairs. He IS "in to you" - no doubt and that's why he didn't want to pressure you anymore than just kissing. You will have to go s-l-o-w with this guy - don't write him off. Ask him out where you can be alone together and repeat the flow of the evening where you were together on the night you both were kissing. He needs to be led but watch out that this kitty cat doesn't turn into a tiger and takes things further to 2nd or third base.

Answer 5

Be happy he's the way he is and not a dog. He'll end up being your best friend when you need someone to talk to. And as much aids as it is going around thats a really good thing to have someone that has not been with a woman. When you get older you'll be looking for a guy that wants to know you for you and not get in your panties. A guy that respects you. Catch him while you can. Keep him around because he'll be there when the other ones get what they want and leave you.

Answer 6

I'm sure he's into you. The fact that he is shy is probably why is he timid to try anything for the first time. Think about it, you just met him and he probably wants to a) get to know you know you better or b) take things slow. Also, the fact that he is inexperienced is most likely why he won't go further than just kissing you. He's probably embarassed that he's going to do something wrong. You should get to know him better (if you're interested in a relationship) and hopefully he will open up as you two get closer.

Answer 7

i can see a lot of possibilities here, and you're not going to like all of them.
1) maybe he is just shy, and didn't feel comfortable with what was going on...although i must say that's kinda odd still. but then again, maybe he is self-conscious about something and didn't feel comfortable enough to tell you.
2) maybe he is inexperienced and didn't know what to do so he thought he'd cut things short before he embarrassed himself.
3) maybe he is gay.....i'm not saying he definitely is, but it is a possibility.
really, you just need to talk to the guy privately if you really want to know. just say something like "the other night, when we were kissing, i got the feeling like you were pushing me away or that you were uncomfortable. what was going on?" if you are comfortable enough to kiss this guy, you should be comfortable enough to ask him that.

Answer 8

like u said he is inexperienced, he is shy and he is not use to that. u need to talk to him and be honest and up front about what u mentioned in here and communicate with him see what he has to say take in all he says and take it from there. maybe he is not ready to go to the next level or step as u said he is shy and inexperienced. if u like this guy talking to him is the best thing u can do and take it from there.find out whats going on with him.lol 2 u and take it slow.......dont rush into anytthing he may not be ready for that. he may b afraid to take things to the next level and that should show u what kind of guy he is esp if ur kissing and u wnt to go to the next level he may not b just into wanting sex he may want more from the rel than just sex, guys like that r a goldmine and that should say something about his character and what kind of a man he is growing up 2 b, lol talk to him.thats theonly way u will find out for sure whats up with him.

Answer 9

It probably didn't even enter his mind that a girl that he had never kissed before, or even dated was ready to go further with him. Now you know why he doesn't get a lot of action.
A few years ago, I was that guy. I didn't trust my instincts enough to push the envelope with a girl. I made progress with girls so slowly that I was afraid to do ANYTHING that jeopardized what little progress that I made with any individual. There was no guy that wanted to get to 2nd or 3rd base more than me, but I was so afraid of destroying what little chance I had, that I got overcautious. Thinking back, I missed out on a lot of opportunities with girls, & I have a lot of regrets.
If you really like this boy, & want to get to know him better, then don't let him get away with withdrawing again.
When he asked you if you "wanna go back downstairs?". I am willing to bet my life on it that in his mind he was hoping that you would have said "No!"

Answer 10

I think it's pretty clear that he didn't know how to react to all of this, based on his lack of experience. I think you should try hanging out with him again, but don't try to hook up or anything. try hanging out with him quite a bit, and when you feel like the time is right, you should ask him what the deal is with you two and what he's thinking/wants from the situation. the best way to find out what he's thinking is to ask him. and while this might seem a little bit ballsy, you seem like you have the confidence to ask him...and what do you have to lose?