How could a dad hit his child? Doesn't a parent feel bad when his child is in tears?

Question

Violence is bad. Communication is the key.

Spanking is hitting.. cuz well it sure aint caressing Thats my opinion

Wow i just checked the answers and im shocked to see how many people are hiting their children. Shame on them those people cant be called parents. Hitting only teaches them that hitting is ok to be used in some cases. I talk out of my own experiance. I was hit and i didnt turned out ok cuz of it at all. The people who say they were spanked and i turned out ok dont know what they talk about : first they didnt turned out ok cuz at their turn they r spanking their kids. Spanking is hitting you hit ur child in that extend to cause him pain. You dont caress him. If you explain children understand very well. If you just hit them til they do what you say this only show them is ok to hit in order to have what you want and you their parents teach them that. I gave a thumb up answer to everyone who was against spanking and hitting and a thumbs down to everyone else, who in my opinion are violent parents.

Answer 1

boy r u right, how can anyone hit anyone else if not in self defence and not feel bad? I have had a parent that has been abusive, and abusive parents, are abusive spouses, and abusive pet owners. How can anyone hit a dog, or a kid and not feel bad? Communication is the key, u wont get anywhere any other way. Thanks for agreeing that hitting in any form, is bad.

Answer 2

There is a big difference between hitting and spanking. There is no need for hitting children by their dad or anyone else; but, spanking is another story. When I was young and I was bad, I mean really bad, I got a spanking, which I deserved. One time, at Christmas, when I was about 8 or 9, I got one of those little spring loaded pistols that shot a plastic rod with a rubber sticker on the front of it and some little bird and animal targets that the sticker would stick to. My Dad was showing me the proper way to hold and shoot the pistol, when for some reason, it jammed. I walked over to him so he could fix it when it when off. It stuck on him right on the forehead! He put me over his knee right there on the spot and gave me a good spanking. Now, every time I pick up a hunting rifle, pistol or any firearm, I remember that spanking, and the lesson I learned about not pointing guns at people. And there was a couple of other times I got my got my butt warmed, but I'm sure I earned them. My point is that the home and school discipline system we have is not working. I hear kids these days cursing, talking back to their parents and adults, running wild in the streets or in stores, because by law their parents and teachers can't discipline them hard enough for the kids to learn that they are in the wrong.

Answer 3

no human being has the right to hit each person fantastically a be certain who will leave bruises. A black eye given to a baby through a be certain is a very severe violation. document this to a school counselor or an human being who you've faith. Hitting someone like this isn't a mind-blowing signal. possibly there is alcohol or drugs in contact. there is honestly something incorrect the following. some adults ought to under no circumstances grow to be mom and father. and that i do not imagine your mom and father were given divorced because of you. i'm so happy that your mom stood through you once you needed her the most! You sound like a very all the way down to earth human being.

Answer 4

The public is split down the middle on this topic, but I am completely against it. I believe it is the easy way out. What does it really teach a child. If you don't like something someone does, use violence to make them obey? A parent has to talk to a child and use time out as a teaching tool. Timeouts take longer and it requires consistency from the parents. This seems like harder work but is better for the child in the long run.. Spanking is for the parent, not the child.

Answer 5

Would you rather spank your child and hurt his feelings - but teach him a lesson or.... keep your child perfectly happy yet he have no morals or possibly really hurt himself?

Spankings are necessary to teach young children - time out doesn't get it because after everyone went to time out and not spanking the next generation of children were terribly misbehaved,have no respect for others, are irresponsible,etc - I know I grew up with this generation of derelicts

And yes almost all parents feel bad - but sometimes its better for the parent to feel bad than for the child to not learn the lesson when it is necessary

Answer 6

"spare the rod, spoiled a child." has anyone heard of this saying???????? Man, when I was at Target not too long ago, this lady has two to three kids with her. One of the child started a fit, he was kicking, wining, crying, and spitting and so on, when the mother told him not to do and stop whatever he was doing the boy didn't stop. He continue on throwing his fit, and I guess she just gave up and let him have his fit. People were annoyed by his screaming, kicking, and whatever else he did and they just looked at the mom like she's crazy to allow him act like that. My senario is take him to the rest room, tell him about his behavior and give him a good wack on his behind and see how he act when it's all said and done. Any parents who have kid(s) one time or another encounter difiant act and tantrum from a child, and talking ain't cutting it.

Answer 7

I would never hit my child - never. Violence against children is barbaric and sadistic. Some adults grew up in those environments BUT that is no excuse for laying hands on a child. Sexual violence against children is truly Satanic.

The negative thumbs-up is an indication that there are posters in this forum who favor physical discipline of children AND who find nothing wrong with pedophilia. Yahoo Answers has taken a turn for the worse....

Answer 8

this all depends how the father hit the child did he hit the child on the butt to say that he/she should not do something. Or did the father hit the shild for the sake of hitting someone and actually meaning to hurt him. Cause if this is the case then charges should be laid against the father

Answer 9

There IS a difference in spanking and abusing. Oh yes, I spank my child. I don't spank him in anger, that's the easiest why for discipline to turn into abuse. If he does something that can cause him harm, or if he is rude or disrespectful to me or his father. I DON'T go around beating him, but there are some situations where you have to teach an important lesson swiftly and effectively. I got my share of spankings as a child, and I am better off for it, believe me.

Answer 10

I think a lot of parents hit out of their own anger and frustrations. (that doesn't make it OK, it only makes them human-- and in maybe in need of anger management) I feel terrible when my children are in tears. I discipline them well without physical punishment.