Why do people think they have too....?

Question

Why do people always feel the need to tell other women on here that they have enough children? I am always seeing women asking questions about wanting more children , etc..and then there is always someone who has to comment and say something like, Dont you think you have enough kids already. Why dont you stop, or there is enough in the world today, etc, etc...Its just none of their business. I dont get it. I think its wonderful to want a big family.

No I wouldnt like to rethink my opinion. I myself have been married 12 years and we are having our 4th baby. I feel if you are able to then go for it.

Yes I totally do agree that some people have too many children that cant afford it and we have to pay for it. I live in an area of the US that is known for that kind of stuff and It drives me crazy . But Im mainly speaking on behalf of women that are perfectly good marriages and are financially stable and wanting kids. Its not right for someone to tell them, they have enough and to stop having more. That is all.

Always rude people I know..

I never said they SHOULD have more kids..lol I said if they want to that is their choice, and none of anyones business.

Answer 1

I absolutly agree. I have one and close to delivering my second, am hoping one day for a 3rd then im done. But anymore than that for some is wonderful. I came from a large family and I loved always having someone there for me know matter what, and the holidays were great. I agree people can be very ignorant on here.

Answer 2

I am going to speak on opinion first, then on personal view. Many women have kids, more than they can truly financially afford with out going and putting themselves and their families into the system for food stamps and welfare. This in turn becomes a burden for someone who has no children or maybe one child, when they run into a pinch and need temporary assistance due to an unexpected situation. The people with no children or maybe only one get denied or less assistance than they really need, because the system is paying out to the family with five or more kids. You also have the woman out there that go out and have more kids than they can physically or mentally take care of and then you have family memebers that end up doing it when it becomes to much. You see families where they have a bunch of kids and the youngers ones end up with less or do with out when it comes to new clothes that fit properly, or activities that cost a little extra money.

Now, personally, I think big families are great. If my husband and I were better off financially I would love to have more children. We know that two is our limit with out making it difficult to live day to day. We did have to ask for assistance at one point, the company I worked for laid everyone off with a wonderful 2 days notice. We had to jump through 1000 hoops just to get $200 worth of emergency food stamps for a month while I was starting my new job and waiting on the pay schedule to become regular. My case worker very specifically told me that if we had more children or if my husband made less that it wouldnt have been so difficult and we could have gotten more assistance. Now, a very close friend that I grew up with, her and her husband are fortunate enough to be able to afford a big family. They have six kids and dont get assistance from the state, all the kids have their own clothes, and they all are active in sports or dance. I admire her and couldn't imagine her living any other life.

Answer 3

I wholeheartedly agree with you but, your "want" to have a big family will be settled by the reality that children are expensive and after a messy divorce, which does happen quite often, when the non-custodial parent abandons their responsibility to pay child support, the custodial parent usually feels the need to stay at home to "care" for the children. They end up going on the dole(welfare) because ends don't meet with the part-time job they'll inevitably take to fulfill their parenting desires and the taxpayers will have to foot the bill. That'd be you and I.
Care to rethink your opinion?
Big families are great I suppose but, I'd want to be sure I had a sound financial footing and a stable spouse before attempting it.
I have personally never answered a question of that type with something snide or insulting nor would I ever stick my nose in someone else's business like that. It's a personal choice and I hope it would have been weighed carefully.
However, what do you say to someone who comes to the internet to "seek" that type advice anyway? I wouldn't trust a thing people answered here on such an important issue.
You've got to wonder about them and their thought processes to begin with and of course, you've got to make room for the idiots (as much as we hate their simple-mindedness) that will come out of the woodwork just to stir controversy. Their day wouldn't be complete unless they riled someone up.

Answer 4

you have to understand that on here there is always going to be negative responses some people just like breaking other people good spirits they have nothing nice to say cuz they are miserable in their own lives I agree with you there is nothing wrong with wanting a big family if the that's what the parents want and can financially handle it then there isn't a problem. people cant tell other people when they have had enough kids that's up to the person who is having them....I feel like if a person loves supports and takes good care of their kids then they should have as many kids as their heart desires

Answer 5

I would love to have a big family, but I'd want to be able to afford it too. I knew a girl who was from a big family and they struggled all the time to put food on the table. If you can afford it go for it!

Answer 6

Great!
Unfortunately, the judgemental people that like to come here in droves don't feel the same, and as annoying as it is, they are allowed to express their views.
I personally don't care about how many children other people have, it really is none of my business.

Answer 7

Well if they asked the question they should expect all different opinions on the issue. Its not your place to say that they should have more either.

Answer 8

I don't know why people judget, maybe it's human nature...or they just think they know it all. But you can't control anybody but YOU...so don't worry about it. And do what makes sense to you and makes you happy. :)

Answer 9

I agree with u.

Answer 10

Haven't you heard of overpopulation and pollution?