I like most of his friends but he has this group of friends who are always showing up at his place unannounced. I do not fancy their interests at all. They party too much and I feel like we have outgrown all that; except that my guy and his friends have so much history that he can't turn them away. We always end up getting dragged into partying with them, and having to sacrifice our own plans at times. I don't want to mess up his friendship and I certainly don't want to put him in a position where he has to choose between them and me. The thing is I really like him...I'm not sure what to do. Please help.
2006-11-12 11:11:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you should keep dating him, don't let other people come in the way of a beautiful relationship.
If he's outgrowing his friends then gradually he will spend less time with them. Tell him you don't want to get in the way of his friendships but that these people make you feel uncomfortable and if he agrees with you or even understands you he will be happy to tell them no. Just turning down these guys a couple of times when they come round will get a message across without being mean and they will start coming round less often.
I'm sure he can keep being friends with them without having to go out partying with them everytime they ask.
2006-11-12 11:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by merihell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your bf has to be honest to his friends since hes known them for a long time.If he really likes you and really wants to move forward in life with you than he has to let his friends know not to screw things up between you guys.You guys need time alone and do things that couples should be doing instead of going out to partys with friends all the time.Tell him you want to get to know him more by spending more time alone with him and not his friends, if he really likes you hes gonna understand but if he doesnt then theres not much you can do but good luck!*
2006-11-12 19:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you be open and honest about your feelings. Tell him specifically what annoys you, what makes you cringe about their party-going attitiude. Ask him where he stands between you and his friends, I would say. If you love him, you'll accept that he has friends with a bit of different interests than you, but just let him know that some of their habits are not ones you share and that perhaps you don't really wish to "party-it-down" as much as they do. Good Luck to you!
2006-11-12 19:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by P3ngu1n_Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation! Listen, if your guy has a history with his friends, thats awsome. You should just let him know that the "partying" with the friends needs to slow down . There are plenty of other things they can do together besides party. Let him know how you feel...i bet he'll understand..
2006-11-12 19:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by LadyDeath$trike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
next time they do that...just leave. he can choose whether or not he wants to go with you or his friends. if he stays with them then that is fine. don't make him feel bad for the choice he made. but then you need to talk to him each time and explain why you are leaving. communication is the best key in a relationship. soon enough he will start to realize those friends are harming his relationship. he knows he will have to make a choice. but let him make the choice, not you. better that way. he is a man...you just give him a nudge in the right direction. good luck
2006-11-12 19:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, cuz sooner or later he will get the hint and spend more time with you if you do not complain about his friends. Yeah, keep trying it out for a spell. Days that he goes with his friends find something else to do and he will miss ya.
2006-11-12 19:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really like him, you need to accept that his friends are going to be around. If everything else is good, I would hang in there.
2006-11-12 19:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we'll you cant give up this relation ship just like that .. you should but liek if you guys have plans and if you dontt wanna go then tell him it dosent hurt to tell the truth if you dont wana go then you dont have to he has to spent time with you some time
or you guys can hang out some where else..
good luck..
2006-11-12 19:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by sososoriya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can beg off and let him go on to his party if he prefers.
Some day he will probably outgrow them.
2006-11-12 19:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 way baby, 4 way bring a girlfriend
2006-11-12 19:15:53 · answer #10 · answered by gentltailya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋