I met this guy who's a year older than me in one of my classes this fall. He's really cool, but also somewhat quiet. One night after a party, we were both really drunk and we went back to his room and hooked up (we didn't have sex), but we still got pretty far. He told me to visit him the next day at work and I did; we talked a lot and things seemed really good. We didn't really talk to much after that, a little bit in class or if we saw each other. Then, a couple of weeks ago, we started kissing at another party and he asked me to go back to his room with him but I told him no. I asked him why we didn't hang out sober and he told me he'd call me the next day. He didn't. Last night I saw him at a party and we talked, and I was being really touchy feely, but he didn't seem like he was that into it. He said he'd call me later that night and he didn't, but I think he might have texted me (my phone will tell me I have a text, but I can't read it or see who it's from...). What's the deal?
2006-11-12 11:09:10 · 16 answers · asked by bosox.girl23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first time we hooked up, we talked for part of the time. He said something about how he wanted me since he met me in class. I told him that I thought he was only hooking up with me because we were drunk. He then said that he thought I wouldn't hook up with him if I was sober. Most of our interaction has been while we've been drunk. But I'm starting to like him.
So is he playing hard to get, or is he just not that into me? And...what should I do about all of this?
2006-11-12 11:12:11 · update #1
I think you confused him- so he isn't sure what to do now.
Thing is - the first hook up you showed him what you were willing to do. That's what he wanted when you met up again. But, you said no. He doesn't know how to respond to that.
It's difficult to go physically backwards in a relationship- which is why it's generally a good idea to take it slow.
Maybe you could just ask him whats going on?
2006-11-12 11:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this same exact thing happened to me! the guy just stopped calling and didnt seem into me when i refused to go ALL the way.
hes probably not worth it, sorry. i mean, do you think hes sitting there right now, wondering if youre into him? do you think hes asking yahoo answers, why wont she have sex with me?
if you REALLY like him (and this is extreme like).. try ignoring him.. its really hard i know. but if you see him at a party, start talking to another guy. dance with other guys and girlfriends. dont make the first move. if he still wants you he'll get jealous and reclaim what he wants (this is what men do).
best of luck sweetie.. let us know how it works out.. best answer?
2006-11-12 11:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it!! If it was him and he is really interested he will text or call again. It sounds to me he is just looking for the occasional hook up, and I admire your confronting him about hanging out sober (kudos!!). Let him pursue you, if he really is interested he will, it sounds to me however, he was looking for an easy hook up, and you are not it! Take care and stay wise!
2006-11-12 11:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by noelis12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is probably alot more outgoing when he has been indulging in a little alcohol. Could be he's shy or timid about talking to you when he's sober. Doesn't mean he doesn't like you...just that he feels awkward and probably doesn't know how to approach you when he is sober.
2006-11-12 11:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say he is in to you he should show it I think you should back off and let him be a man but the truth is you should love yourself enough to know you deserve someone who is crazy about you and will follow thru with what he said prince charming never told snow white he would call then didnt if he is making excuses he is no good and you should look else where
2006-11-12 11:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he's not that into you. Maybe into the sex or whatever but not into you. I would leave him alone if I were you. And try to lay off the booze. He's just taking advantage of you and if you keep drinking that way, so will others.
2006-11-12 11:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by angelall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh....this is the most obvious example of a guy trying to sleep with a girl I've ever read. He wants to sleep with you----PERIOD. I don't think it could be any clearer, judging from the information you posted.
2006-11-12 11:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by C J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hang with him while hes sober more often i thinke likes ou but i can really tell ask if he texted you and ry clling him once if he seems sidetracked thne try to play the feild with someone else
2006-11-12 11:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by sweetmelody14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy who says he'll call and then doesn't is not worth your time. gosh if he's like this at the beginning...only imagine what he could be like a month down the road
2006-11-12 11:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks your really hot, and sorta likes you, but your one of about 4 probably.
Im not like that, but i have a bunch of friends that are like that, i have 3 sisters and know alot about girls and how they act, so i know how to treat them, i love my girl friend very much and if this guy accually likes you. he would be calling u. ps thanks for answering my question. i wanted to see if i was right
2006-11-13 06:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by B man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋