there is this guy at my church i tried to be nice to him then he was like in love with me he asked me out and i had to say no but now hes in love with me. he is either falsly calling me names or trying to hug me, every week it gets worse i try to avoid him but its hard he thinks its funny. he touches me and he called me honey, love and stuff like that i dont know what to do i want it to stop now! also he is sorta got some problems one time he like freaked out and started cursing at my friend even though she is mean to him i dont want him to hate me but i cant take it anymore
2006-11-12 10:49:37 · 25 answers · asked by sweetmelody14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
aww you are soo sweet!!
listen up girlie!
go grab yourself someone resembling like "King Diamond" or (lol) "Rob Zombie" and introduce them to the stalker dude as your old man.
.... would make anyone rethink a few things eh?
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2006-11-12 11:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Extoss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First Off I Have To Say From Personal Experience. Never.... Ever Have Sex With Your Stalker.
Now On To Your Question. Try Talking To Him And Putting It Bluntly. Something Like... 'I Dont Have Those Feelings For You, And Your Behavior Is Making Me Uncomfortable.' If That Doesnt Work I Am Sorry To Say You May Need To End The Friendship.
Hope This Helps!
2006-11-12 10:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to; 1)your parents 2)his parents 3)someone at the church 4)if all else fails, the police.
2006-11-12 10:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stalkers and weirdo's in general do not like adverse attention being brought to them. Bring it up with a parent or your pastor. Let them have a conversation with this fellow to leave you alone. The sheer embarassment of being talked to by the pastor may make him change churches. If he is a dedicated stalker and continues to harass you in other places, then you need to bring law enforcement into it to have a talk with him.
2006-11-12 10:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by tjjone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since this is someone you have met at church. Talk to the Pastor about it. Ask him to intervene on your behalf. This guy may have done this to other women in the church as well. And if he knows you are telling other people he may stop his advances. If not, contact the police.
2006-11-12 10:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Squeegee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple solution.... Hand him a business card of the best psychiatrist you can find. He needs it. Tell him to call you when he's sane. Being nice is over rated.
2006-11-12 10:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by brighteyedboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your pastor and he will give you advice. I was in a similar situation and once one fo the Deaconess of my Church confronted the person, I had no more problems.
2006-11-12 10:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the authorities,he may become dangerous. i would not care if he hated me or not, that is scary. tell him to leave you alone and stay away. you might even have to switch your church,or tell the pastor about him, he could have done this someone else. he sounds nuts and perverted.
2006-11-12 10:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "look. I know you like me, and I'm sure you're a swell guy, but maybe it would be best if we were just friends." Have a friend on hiding nearby just in case he goes bonkers. But how old are you? It would help. If you're in you teens, maybe tell your parents. If you're below that, tell your parents and alert the police maybe. If you are over those ages...I dunno.
2006-11-12 10:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by lex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem extreme but I assure it will be effective. That guy gets within 50 feet of you, yell GET AWAY FROM ME at the top of your lungs so everyone around can hear. Over and over and over if you need to. He is harrassing you and he needs to know his behaviour is not welcome.
2006-11-12 10:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by Samslou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋