there is this boy at my highschool that really likes me alot. I'm a guy also. I'm in the closet hiding it from society in school. Lately, I been finding myself flirting with him, and him too. So a rumor came up saying that we were both gay and going out. I was hurt so badly when he started going out with this girl in my face and act like he didnt even know me, knowing that we have a secret relationship with one another. He know how I feel about this but just luaghs at it. Even though God meant for woman to be with man, but I just have feelings for guys. I'm a christian, and know Jesus Christ.Could someone please help me out, give me advice anything you can. Anything, and please be kind to me please dont hurt me anymore than what I already have . The reason I posted this question in religion, is becasue I feel really scared and dont know what to do. I know its wrong to be gay, bi, but I just have a strong feeling for guys. I know its a sin to act upon homosexual.
2006-11-12 10:38:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I pray and pray on this to the lord on why have I developed this feeling, having relationship feelings for guys, and little for women.
2006-11-12 10:39:23 · update #1
Yes I know God is a God that dont make mistakes, but he did give us free will, and I was asking him how did I develope this feeling I have for guys
2006-11-12 10:52:10 · update #2
Unfortunately, you'll get little help from doctors since psychiatry stopped treating homosexuality as a mental illness. So religious guidance may be the only help you can find.
It is a shame that society has left you to struggle with this, and I know you probably don't want to hear this, but you may have to make do with the hand you were dealt. Maybe you should start doing guys.
It doesn't sound to me like you're some reprobate who just commits deviant acts at a whim. You're the victim of a disease.
2006-11-12 11:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you are only in high school. Relationships of this nature being heterosexual or gay should not be as important as they are to far too many teenagers your age. I understand this is not a very popular belief I have, but honestly I have two teenage children and neither of them date and few of their friends do. I know I can't be so far out there in this matter.
I am not trying to hurt you, so I am sorry if my words seem harsh. You said you know Jesus Christ......then you know this is hurtful to Him. He did something for out of love that NOBODY else would do just to save you so He could be with you in eternity. You know the Father wishes for not one of His children to perish. Your young, focus on why your here. Find a pastor you trust and get counseling. It is so hard to be accountable for sin in worldly terms less than what you just accepted accountability for. Most people wont admit to a lie or that they ate the last cookie and left the bag in the cupboard. Just continue, pray ask the Lord to take this burden from you. Talk to a pastor. You will be better than ok if you just do what you know the Lord wants you to.
2006-11-12 10:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Buddy the Elf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for the kind of crap that some people will give you on this board. Christians here, don't tend to be understanding. (Maybe some will try to be so after being told they aren't.... I don't know)
Anyway, the first thing to understand is that many of the places in the Bible where homosexuals are called abominations weren't, in their original tongues, talking about homosexuals.
The second thing to note is that homosexuality is hard-wired into the brain, and most people don't have a choice.
Third, some Christian therapy groups claim to be able to "cure" homosexuality, but NONE of these have allowed themselves to be subjected to a rigorous scientific study. It's my belief that most of the "cures" are actually of bisexual people who have been able to lilve a heterosexual lifestyle. Some Gays, fearing damnation deny their identities and live strained straight lives.
What you probably need to do is to decide if you're actually gay, or perhaps bi. Then, find out about it. There are PFLAG groups around, and in many areas there are support groups for GLBT people. Find out who you are, and be yourself. One of the highest suicide groups is that of GLBT people trying to live as if they weren't. Christians try to use this suicide rate as a proof that GLBT people are sick, when in reality the suicide is caused because of the feeligs of condemnation from a religion that should be loving and embracing. Such is life.
2006-11-12 10:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if hiding something this much hurts ... then it only hurts because you cant help how you are
if you could chose to be any other way i am sure you would
now i am not christian sorry
but I'm just telling it how i see it
God created you ... he doesn't make mistakes ... you are you
as for this boy .. i feel if he is gay also , then he is not ready to accept that ... he may have got a girlfriend just to show people that he is straight .. putting a face on
but even if this guy is for you or not ...
just be true to yourself
much love xx
mirage dont i always lol
2006-11-12 10:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am not a Christian. Take that into consideration when reading my advice.
I do not think there is anything wrong with being gay. My understanding is there are Christian churches that are accepting of homosexuals. I do know, however, that you will never be able to "rid" yourself of your feelings for guys. There is no cure for gay, no matter what others people claim. The failure rate for "cures" for homosexuality is extremely high.
I don't believe that god/dess, whoever or whatever he/she is, wants you to suffer for being who you are. My advice would be to be accepting of yourself, all of yourself.
2006-11-12 10:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by sparky52881 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i did not had a boyfriend 'until finally my 2d twelve months on college. i become 19 then. i think of you're able to attend until you experience like it, do not rush. I had informed myself i would not have a boybriend until finally i become in love, and so did it. BTW, i become a virgin too and that i did not experience like a loser, yet i assume society is extremely much less exigent with one's habit here in Uruguay! ;)
2016-11-23 18:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These lustful feelings do not come from God. You need to recognize it for what it is. I suggest you talk to a godly pastor who will help you. You must have some childhood problems that are pushing you in the direction. God wants to help you and so do other chirstians. If you you have been abused or molested it can bring sexual confusion. Counceling with a pastor can help.
You can be free of this. Satan is a liar and the father of lies. He wants you to believe you are gay. Christ wants to make you into the man he created you to be. Go with Christ....He always wins.
2006-11-12 10:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Homosexuality isnt' a choice, you're either gay, or straight.
You seem to be a little more on the gay side.
But don't worry if Jesus is as "awesome" as you christians say than you should be fine.
Or you can go to hell, but don't worry I'll probably go to hell too for being atheist.
2006-11-12 10:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Reload 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honey, I don't know what religion you are, but go to your bishop, priest, pastor or whoever is the head of your church and talk to them. They should not down you for feeling the way you do, but they will be able to help you with your feelings.
I pray for you, God be with you always and forever, sincerely, Juanita
2006-11-12 10:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by nevada nomad 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You need to seek counseling with a trusted pastor. I cannot even begin to counsel or advise on this, other than to not go at this alone. Not all Christians are hostile towards people who suffer from these same sex attractions.
2006-11-12 10:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋