He loves her...I love him...He likes me.......Not worth the wait..I wanna get over him...BUT HOW??
2006-11-12 10:20:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just make sure YOU'RE OVER him... accept that there will be a period of time where it'll be tuff and that you might consider going back or change your mind... and he might try his charm too... and I'm sorry to say this but the only real medecine is time and a little sadness... If only there was a switch for emotions... I've had it ruff at least 2 times and it takes me a good 2-3 months before I'm over her...One good way is to try to keep some distance.
There will be other people... just be yourself.
Jeff
2006-11-12 10:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jeffrey K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has happened to all of us.
There is only one way - the hard way I'm afraid.
Give it time. Eventually you will meet someone else and this will all be ancient news to you.
The problem is: What do you do while you still feel awful and think of him every single minute?
The answer is: Try to spend as much time as possible with people you have good fun with. Try to go to as many parties, gallery exhibitions, gigs, festivals, whatever you fancy. What you need to avoid is spending time on your own, because it is when you are alone that his thought will haunt you.
Most important thing (key to success): don't rush into finding someone else. If it happens, by all means go for it. Just don't force yourself, because you will only end up reminding yourself of your love for the other guy. Quite the opposite of what you're trying to achieve here.
Sorry if it sounds long and painful. It is, but it works! (I've been there)
I hope it's easy on you. Good luck!!
2006-11-12 10:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by eleni f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you say that you don't care anymore so what's the problem?
Anyway, i think that you will get over him soon.it s just the disappointment you feel because you feel rejected. thta's why you can't get over him.
By the way, have you ever told him about your feelings?
Does he know how you feel or not.? Cause if he doesnt you 'd better show him if you are shy to tell him.
On the other hand, if he s not interested the best thing to do is to take your best friend, wear your best clothes, be a real doll, go out have fun and give the chance to so many other boys that would like to meet you. you 'll build up your confidence by that and maybe you 'll make him jealous!
i m sure you 'll find someone interesting and romantic out there!!
trust me. cheer up and good luck. !!!
2006-11-12 10:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you didn't care anymore then you'd be over him.... sounds like you don't trust him (at least with how you feel). You said he loves you.. then you said he just likes you... I think the two of you need to get you heads around how you feel for each other. Just because he loves someone else doesn't mean he loves you any less, strange as it seems. You need to get some straight answers from him, and you have to clearly understand what he means to you. If he means nothing.... then it will be easy to move on (not to forget-but to move on). If he means more than that to you, and he says the same to you then figure that out, not just what each of you say to each other, but what you mean to each other.
if he says that you two are over and you love him (or even care for him) then focus on what made him attractive and find that in someone else, Build on what has worked in your relationship and drop what hasn't. Focus you attentions on people who have the same attributes that you found attractive and worked in him. The best way to get over someone is to find a person that replaces those feelings in you.
If you both still love each other and want to be with each other. Then talk to him, just because he is with someone else don't mean he can't be with you too. It just means the three of you need to be honest with each other and work something out.
2006-11-12 10:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a wise girl. You can tell when it is over. (Good girl!) You read a lotta questions in here that don't sound as confident and 'sure' about things as you do! I am glad. You won't find it too hard to get over him, I am thinking. (You don't really need advice.. lol.) IF you want a little tho, I tell everybody to NOT think this guy they "can't now have" is twice as great.. BUT think of the most horrible stuff about him (his sox stink!) lol
2006-11-12 10:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to have self-love, our hearts are unable to heal.
Rather then sitting around at home sulking about what could have been, you should start spending more time with your friends. You need to go out, go to the movies, hang with friends, go to clubs and parties, and meet new people (not just prospects for a date but new people that you can just kick it with as well).
By occupying yourself with different activities and keeping yourself busy, your heart will start to heal because you won't have the time to sit around and be unhappy about your situation.
2006-11-12 10:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go have a fling! haha! jk. Sometimes it can help to satisfy your more shallow needs, but you need time to reflect.
If you stop hanging out with him at least for awhile, you'll find interest in others. And one day he might realize you're gone and he could've had a great thing. Then who knows?
2006-11-12 10:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by brighteyedboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am in the same position as you and my friends gave me the advice to start flirting with other guys, if u have any pictures of the guy u love then put them in a box, just talk to more guys and just hang out with the other guys a lot
2006-11-12 10:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time...distance yourself from him (no contact if possible)...it's easier to get over someone if you don't see/communicate with them for a while...spend time with friends, take up a hobby...do things to distract yourself and before you know it, thoughts of him won't hurt anymore...
2006-11-12 10:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself your over him and move on, just hang out with friends and forget about him
2006-11-12 10:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋