alright i know...., im not looking to to get posted with messages against abortion. I am honestly looking for people to give any helpful advice. My girlfriend just found out she's 2-3 weeks pregnant. Family situation and other things basically make it were abortion is a must. I know she's hurting right now and so am I. I want to be there for her but she's making it hard for me to be with her right now. Since we found out and came to the decision, I have felt nothing but remorse. I really dont care how bad I feel,i know shes feeling worse. I want to make sure that either way she is ok. I want to be there and say or do something to try and support her. Ive already told her that im here no matter what her final decision is. Can anyone give me insight from personal experiance's? Or advice on what to do or say?
2006-11-12 10:16:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be there for her...what to do or say will come to you as the situation warrants...
It's a tough decision, but she needs to do what is best for her...hopefully there will be no regrets...there's nothing wrong wih her decision to abort, in spite of those who have opinions to the contrary...
She's quite brave to go against the opinion of so many...but it's okay...I applaud her courage and doing what is right for her/you two...
I'm sorry the decision hurts her...I don't feel that it should...there's no reason it should...she's merely eliminating potential, but that's also what happens every time an egg inside a woman is expelled unfertilized or a guy ejaculates and the sperm don't reach an egg...it's simply potential and nothing more...
Be strong for her if that's what she needs...hopefully the experience will be behind the two of you soon, and your lives can get back to happy times...
2006-11-12 10:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no good advice for 2 kids who got pregnant and are going to kill there future son or daughter because it's just not the right time. Did you know at 12 days the baby already has a heartbeat?? Or that his/her little fingers toes and organs are already forming??? You seriously plan to make that precious heartbeat stop be cause it's not the right time??? Sorry i don't feel for you. Adoption is out there. People who can' have children would love to have your baby. Instead you decide you want to live with killing your child...I'll never get people like you . Abortion is just an excuse for not using birth control which obviously didn't cross your mind. A 3 dollar box of condoms cost less then an abortion which can range from 350+...sad it really is all the things out there to prevent and all you wanna do now is kill.
2006-11-12 18:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the moralizing bible thumpers here, you've made your decision and their self-righteous casting stones at you won't do you any good at all. Maybe someday they'll read their bibles and learn about not being judgemental...
Here's the most important thing to do: talk to her about it. See if she wants you to be there when she goes through the procedure. Offer to hold her hand. At the least, pony up the money and pay for it, even if she doesn't want you there, or doesn't want to see you again. It's tough, but you have got to be a man about this.
And do the both of you a favor and find out if the clinic is picketed and under siege by anti-abortion bigots, and if it is, make sure you are there providing her with an escort and ready to fight to get her in and keep both of your identities private. If you live in a part of the country where the anti abortion bigots get nasty, you are going to need some help with the escort. Believe me, the local church people gave me 9 stitches just for trying to buy condoms at a planned parenthood!
2006-11-12 18:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Celtic Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Support your girlfriend by being a man. Only sissys don't protect their women and children. "Abortion is a must" why is it a "must"? That is like saying "Suicide is a must". If you really want to make he feel better, discourage this murder of YOUR child. The reason you feel so much remorse is because premeditated murder is very hard on people. You know it is a life you two are planning to kill. Which is why you feel so much remorse and later guilt after the abortion is complete. Please choose Adoption and life for YOUR CHILD if you can not properly take care of this child.
2006-11-12 18:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i hate when guys try to make a say in this because they have no idea what its like to carry around a baby."
i find it interesting that some humans can't go through pregnancy to save another human. maybe they have no value in life. or maybe they have a different view on time. what does it matter it the person is a baby or an adult. the fact still remains that abortion is killing a human.
2006-11-12 23:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Hydronle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i know exactly how she is feeling. I had an abortion last february and it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do. Afterwards i went to therapy sessions up until about a month ago. What helped me out the most was when my therapist brought to my attention that the child that was aborted had a spirit. (im spiritual), and that its body is gone but its spirit is not. And that if your babys spirit knows that it wants that woman to be its mother than it will wait for that woman until she is ready to have a baby. And if not, that spirit will find another womans body to inhabit. I dunno if that helps at all...if you want more advice you can e-mail me...hope everything turns out ok...
2006-11-12 18:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by santacruzhippie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried exploring options or seeing if things will be any better to keep the baby. I know that's a hard thing to give up but there is also adoption. If there is a strong family unit there maybe you should talk to them and see if they are willing to help
2006-11-12 18:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by druhill119 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby and give it up for adoption. Honestly that's all I can say. If you don't choose to do so then, whatever it's your choice but since I don't know the full reasons for it I feel at least obligated say this. The truth is there most likely will come a day when you'll look back and feel nothing but regret and you'll wish you made the choice to keep it. Time may heal all wounds but it can only intensify regret. Please reconsider. I wish both of you a long and happy life.
2006-11-12 18:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bloody Wing 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
abortion is okay.
dont pressure her into doing anything though.
she is pregnant and things are hard enough for her right now,
the last thing she needs is someone elses input.
let her do what she wants while you tell her pro's and con's about each situation.
if she says abortion is what she wants, do not talk her out of it. i hate when guys try to make a say in this because they have no idea what its like to carry around a baby.
good luck though, i hope things work out.
2006-11-12 18:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Support is the big thing. You have to do what you have to do for YOU only. Dont worry about what anyone else says or thinks. This your your life (you two). Just be there for her and it'll become a part of your past.
2006-11-12 18:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋