They are very dedicated to her and they take her so that I can work. They are doing me a huge favor by taking her. What I need to know is should I say something to them about it or not?
2006-11-12 10:13:27 · 10 answers · asked by tabitha k 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She is 15 months old, there is no sugar involved nor much tv aside from her Elmo dvd. They are young grandparents as I am a young mother. She is the center of attention when she is there and it seems that they just have her doing too much. They are always on the go and when my daughter comes back to me she's crabby and tired and difficult to handle. What should I do if anything?
2006-11-12 13:36:23 · update #1
Is this causing a problem?
Maybe she likes her grandparents, and they do have the right to spoil her (it's a law).
If you are talking about sexual stimulation which I doubt, then you have a big problem, otherwise leave them alone. What happens at Grandma's, stays at Grandma's.
2006-11-12 10:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, they are probably over stimulating her. They are also giving her foods high in sugar. Talk to them. Tell them what is happening when you bring her home on Sunday. Ask them what they think needs to be done so she is calmer and settled down.
The other thing is, she has been the center of attention for over 2 days. She gets home and goes to her room or the family room and watches tv. You get on the computer. Maybe you should spend quality time with her, talk about her visit, what she did and didn't do. Read a book together. Teach her to cook. Kids can start making cookies and instant pudding at 18 months.
Could be allot of things. Could be you. You have been without a child for 2 days and things haven't been hectic.
2006-11-12 10:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonder if she gets all the treats she wants and it is more a sugar high. Talk to your parents and just ask openly. My mom would cut back if that was the case. Might be just the constant on the go at the Grandparents and she has a hard time winding back down. Don't make a big deal out of it when you mention it, just ask about what she may be eating. That would be my first guess.
2006-11-12 10:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like it would depend on what she is overstimulated from. If it's sugar then say something...it seems like nothing that will start a fight. If it is from too much t.v. then that's a tricky one. How are they using the t.v.? As a babysitter because it might be a tiresome weekend to be a babysitter as a grandparent? That might be one you let slide since they are doing you a favor. It's just hard to say without knowing the particular stimuli.
2006-11-12 11:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by JordanB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that seems pretty common, after all grandparents do have a tendency to spoil kids sometimes.
Perhaps you should talk to them about it especially if it is a regular occurrence. It is one thing to be spoiled once a month but once a week or more can certainly be bad.
Your parents sound like good folks and I think as long as you don't put it to them like they are doing something WRONG and make sure they know how much you appreciate them it will be okay. Maybe if you go from a different angle, you know that maybe you are concerned that she might prefer them... I don't know, it really depends on your parents and the relationship you have with them...
Either way... good luck. :)
2006-11-12 10:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by D B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is your daughter maybe you should just have a candid conversation with the grandparents about your feelings and concerns and see what they say think. I know that you are afraid of scaring off the good help but they love your daughter and they will probably not be upset at all. They probably aren't even aware that they are having that affect on her.
2006-11-12 10:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by shawn_mauldin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most children go through a transition stage when comming home. I would work with your daughter about ways to help her settle back down into home when she gets there.
2006-11-12 11:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grandparents are going to spoil their grandkids no matter what. you probably shouldn't say anything because it may become uncomfortable and then they'll only do it behind your back. my parents and in-laws watch my kids too and i find that it is just the trade-off. as they get older our parents have gotten to be more serious about time with them, disipline etc., when it really matters.
2006-11-12 11:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by pins11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would, my son was coming home the same way.... turns out he was eating whatever he wanted and staying up all night watching whatever. After a while he started getting sick when ever he was there, now he just stays with me. I let him visit only if i am there to supervise
2006-11-12 10:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grand parent are grandparents they will spoil her and love her and to show there love they are doing everything for her to keep her happy so id just stick withit as long as your daughters happy
2006-11-12 10:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋