Does anyone else have this problem?

Question

My family treats me like the unofficial emotional punching bag. Whenever something is going wrong in their lives I'm ALWAYS the one who ends up being the blunt of their anger.

I assume that they do this because I'm the only family member who generally doesn't carry grudges and is very forgiving. I do stand up for myself, but that just makes them angrier.

In return for my service as their emotional release, I am not allowed the same privilege. If I EVER blew up in the way that they all do they would never forgive me for it and would in all probability kick me out of the house.

How can I get them to stop treating me this way?

When I attempt to point out to them what they are doing they get very offended and try to make me apologise for it.

Nope! I'm actually the oldest of the family.

Answer 1

Do I no how you feel!! Welcome to the Black sheep of the family club :0)

Move out of the house. You are the strong hold of the family. This is how I rationalized my situation. Now that I have been out for quite a while I get phone calls for help from my family. What should I do, or this is what mom is doing how can I....
As far as not being able to release the same way they do to you what I did is find others outside of the family....Parents are supposed to be there for there kids but in todays world this is not always the case.
Good luck it will not be long before you are out on your own...

Answer 2

You should let them know what your feelings are and whats wrong with you!!!! I realize from what your saying, that it may be hard but "If you risk nothing, you risk even more" You should try to make them understand you and what your going though and how they make you feel!!! Tell them it's not to attack them but it's to show them how they really make you feel!!! Also let them know how important it is to you that just like you are there for them you want to do the same!!!! It's only fair!!!!!!!! On the same hand you need to try to understand them too, it will be hard because they are the ones hurting you but just try!!! Yes, i have had the same problem, talking about it helps in some way!! Hope this helps!!

Answer 3

You may be a target but only you can tell them if they have hit the target. Let them rant and rave all they want then smile and tell them you understand. that is all nothing more . Do not react to them in any other way. A sail is no good if there is no wind.So smile and nod and say I understand. I promise it will work.

Answer 4

Poppy, if I had that challenge, I would not log into YA for somewhat even as. I might lay low. And it quite often would not be a foul proposal to take a better seem at your contacts. Anyone who's at an access or low-stage will have to be reconsidered as as to whether you desire them as peers / contacts / fanatics. Once factor phases get prime appears to be while the trolls are so much lively on reporting. They appear to be looking to knock the entire well festival out via reporting their better-stage contacts up to feasible. So, if I had plenty of contacts, I might seem to peer while the ones humans grew to become lively. Or you might e-mail a buddy you believe who additionally has tons of contacts and ask your buddy in case you have any of the identical contacts and are regarded "questionable." Because a few of my peers and contacts are getting rid of the humans who are not their avid fanatics, I now not get almost as many questions in my e-mail field. I realise why a few of my contacts who've plenty of fanatics must do away with a few of their blameless fanatics. Sure, it isn't as so much amusing to delete a few of your contacts, however I feel it maybe the intelligent factor to do. Then, trolls will must move out in their approach to take a look at and uncover your questions. Or, if you do not desire to put low and conceal for a even as to peer if you'll lose your troll, you then quite often have got to do away with a few extra of your contacts. It's what I'd do. No blameless sounding questions will have to be regarded to be a pronounced "violation" personally. Any blameless questions you requested and acquired a contravention detect for, you have got to contest the questions or solutions that have been pronounced as violations with YA. I desire you'll lose your troll. But I do not feel it is shrewd to disregard your whole contacts... begin doing somewhat investigating of your possess. I'm now not on YA up to I was once and trolls are partly the motive why. Some YA bills simply must be blocked. And do not reply to hateful or criticizing emails from humans you do not know. Just hit the delete key or ban the ones humans that you do not believe. I removed the ones humans who are not right here at YA very so much and who've a low quantity of features. And be very cautious while you reply random questions from humans you do not know something approximately. Best of success to you, my buddy.

Answer 5

I'm the same way. They're arguing and nexy thing i know there talking about me! I'm not sure theres a way out of this problem, as long as you know you didn't do anything bad, you should just like ignore what there saying.

PS i you get an answer of what to do to stop this please tell me

Answer 6

tell them if theyre going to kick you out for the same bad things theyre doing, then they are real messed up in the head.

Answer 7

Leave! You deserved to be treated better and you if you leave that situation you'll have a chance at it. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Next time just kick them in the nuts trust me you will be respected and yell at the top of your lungs RESPECT MY AUTHORITA.

Answer 9

get a backbone and comfront them about it , if u are seriouly a punching bag .... get some more serious help

Answer 10

tell them all to stop venting on you or you shall show them the power of your fist