Alright, i'm sure there are TONS of questions like this out there but every situation is different so here goes...i've fallen for a man that already has a girlfriend. We've been friends for several months and then before i know it we are talking on the phone for hours, sneaking off at work to spend time with eachother and talking about our feelings for one another. From what he tells me the deal with them is that they've been together for a long time, 4 years, and they live in the same house together. He works nights, and she works days so they literally don't spend any time together at all. There is no intimacy, they don't really say a whole lot to eachother and when they do she's usually on his case about something. NOW here is the tricky part, HE says it's just easier to go through the motions this way than disrupting the routine they have, they also have a son together so splitting up with probably get pretty tricky. And yes i have thought about all of this A LOT
2006-11-12 10:06:31 · 14 answers · asked by jessarose143 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've thought about them, me, and what would happen. So my question is i guess, what do you think the odds of this guy being for real? In the past i've become the girl that men leave women for and then end up getting back together with them after breaking up with me. How can be carefuly about this? I'm sure some of you know when it comes to matters of the heart, it's not always that easy to say "move on" HELP!
2006-11-12 10:08:54 · update #1
Unless he confronts the situation with her (aka "being a man") then run away. You don't want a life like that, you don't want someone else's man and HERE IS THE IMPORTANT PART :
You don't want a man who would do that to another woman. So either he's honest with her and does the right thing (called integrity) or you hold as friends until he does.
I won't even delve into the splitting up a family part... if he is doing it with you he's not much of a father, either.
2006-11-12 10:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask for help on this question... He is playing you and getting some on the side...He is not going to leave this woman and he is telling you whatever he has to , to make you believe this crap. He is a dog. Has a woman and child at home and then he has you sneaking off with...So best thing talk to his girlfriend about this situation so she can let you know how good things really are with them. Or walk away. And one more thing would you really want to get into a serious relationship with someone that cheated on his first woman.. Because remember if he is cheating on her right now to be with you, then he will cheat on you to be with someone else when he gets bored with you....RUN NOW
2006-11-12 18:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to take a look at the fact that you seem to go for guys that are already in a relationship. If he hasnt left her yet what makes you think he really wants to. People can be great liars if it gets them what they want and people can also change so easily. If he does leave her for you, whats to say he wont do it to you some time in the future, Geez girl, find a single man!
2006-11-12 18:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you have been in the situation that a guy has left you...do you remember the heartache you felt?? Now imagine that pain in a child's eyes....is that really something you want to be the cause of?? The question isn't...would he leave the other woman or not...the question is...do you want to cause that child pain when the father says it is easier to stay??????
2006-11-12 18:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by AzMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't a sticky situation at all, you need to leave him alone. If he wanted to leave her, he would. You are spicing up his life outside of his homelife, you are making work interesting and that's it. If he were to leave her for you? She would still be in his life and therefore in YOUR life. And when the tables are turned and he is having to see her, spend time with her because of the child, you will always wonder what they're doing, what they're talking about. If he leaves her for you, he will leave you for someone else.
2006-11-12 18:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it's easier for him just to go through the motions and not disrupt the routine they have, then I say you should move on and find someone with less baggage/
2006-11-12 18:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
please he wont leave ur a fling to keep him happy for now.
and excuse me for being rude and up front but if men have left the g/f etc for u in the past do u make a habbit of breaking up familys????????? go and find a nice single guy who will love u for u and not for what u can do for them. AND LEAVE THE TAKEN MEN ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!! cos if u dont ur asking to be hurt.
2006-11-12 18:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by mrs nevz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only hearing his side of it. He'll tell you anything as long as he can continue to get in your panties.
When a person cheats, they'll give you anything they think you want to hear.
It's too bad we all could't get both sides of the story before we continued to humiliate ourselves.
2006-11-12 18:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly you already know the answer.... you dont want to be with this guy because even if he does leave her for you......in the back of your head you will always have to worry about him leaving you one day..... I would try to talk to men who arent in relationships...trust me its less stressful and atleast you dont have to be sneaky.....
2006-11-12 18:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by Candi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he wants to have his cake and eat it to!
He won't leave her, so then he can have you and her when he likes.
If I were you I would find someone with a little less baggage and wants to be with you and only you!
Good Luck!!
2006-11-12 18:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Beccygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋