For the past 2 years i've liked this guy. been getting all the right signals. We've kissed and 'stuff' on a couple of occasions. the signals are all there. when people found out we'd kissed they thought it was more on his part and that he liked me.
Why is it that whenever I seem to be getting close to him he seems to back away. I's like a cycle. We flirt, the chemistry becomes unbearable, we get closer, something happens between us, and then he kind of backs off, it's awkward for a while then the cycle starts all over again. Any advice? what am i missing? i've tried to approach the subject with him and (normally he's really confident) but if i try to speak to him he clams up. Do i stick with it? i'm so puzzled by his behaviour, would be nice to get a guys opinion on the subject? thanks x
2006-11-12 10:03:26 · 12 answers · asked by Mand 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yay, I'm a guy!
Perhaps he is just a little put off by the fact you're obviously really good friends (asides from the kissing and "stuff"). This could be causing some conflicting emotions for him, and backing away is a classic reaction to things that you can't quite get to grips with.
I had a friend, we were easily best friends at the time, and we got close one night. Before I'd seen her as something of a sister, and so you can imagine the strange emotions that brought on. Perhaps he is being similarly weirded out by the times you are having with him.
The best thing, cliched as it is, is to speak to him, but first know how you feel. If you're 100% sure that you want more from a relationship with him, and you're ready to tell him (and face the possiblility of rejection) then go tell him, and find out how he feels. Just be prepared to take your time over it, because despite the traditional view that its girls who are soft, us guys do have emotions and confusion and all those things too.
Just know that, from my experience, if he says no, he just wants to be friends, or whatever, it may well be difficult to keep the spark that you obviously have.
2006-11-12 10:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by ashypoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me mum would say that it is a game, a woman chases a man until he catches her.
Maybe he's bashful, or off put by a female who he may think a bit aggressive.
Have you considered just simply keeping it as a game? Otherwise, you could not play games, but bluntly let him know you want it to be more, and if he says "no" you can still be friendly but know that you can move on to find someone who is interested. A no may hurt a bit for the moment, but better to know and have it over.
And, Boll**ocks to him if he turns down love! He would not be worth it to you.
"Men are Prats, Ask me, I know, I am one!" Sometimes cupid's arrow works not, but a large rolling pin does get our attention.
2006-11-12 10:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes shy it sounds like. maybe what you should do is get him alone in a public place the mall or a restuarant and just sit down and tell him how you feel about him, ask him how he feels just tell him your interested in being more than friend but yo dont wanna be make-out buddies so its friends or more than that but not both (of course then you have to stick with that )
2006-11-12 10:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by benjamin b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like the old saying treat um mean keep um keen he doesn't want to give you to much just in case someone else comes along who he feels is better than you then he doesn't have to finish with you cos there's nothing really there or so he would say in my opinion i would let him go and find someone who wants you all the time n not just when he feels like it find someone who will treat you with respect
i wish you luck
2006-11-12 10:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by ironstu3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
it sounds like he has major doubts or somebody is telling him not to go near you.
confront him about it and see exactly what is going on because otherwise you're gonna be left wondering
2006-11-12 10:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by pegasus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds very confusing. if you believe its too much for you then tell him or talk to him about it and if he cant give you a decent explanation then you should definitely move on to greener pastures
2006-11-12 10:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay with it!!! I think most guys clam up when they are really feeling a bit confused but really in love
2006-11-12 10:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by fbubble 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it hasn't happened in two years then I'd give up.
2006-11-13 00:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if you reckon he likes you and he should respond
2006-11-12 10:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is using ya!
Move on....if he wants you, you will know. just dont waste time on him!
2006-11-12 10:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lee H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋