you went over to family's home for Thanksgiving to stay the week and they had you sleep on the couch, your daughter (age 6) on an air mattress in the other room while they slept in the bed? My sister-in-law and niece are staying at our house for the week of Thanksgiving. Our current plan is to put sis on the couch and niece on the air mattress in the office (We only have a two bedroom house and with no kids the second bedroom is an office). We will remain in the bedroom. If you were in my sister-in-law's place, would you mind? She really doesn't want to stay at a hotel and I love that she wants to stay with us, but should my hubby and I take the couch and air mattress and leave the bed to company? Niece still occassionally sleeps with her parents anyway when she has nightmares. I was thinking about helping her set up a fortress in the office with boxes and bedsheets that first night so she'd have a fun place to sleep. Would that be alright?
2006-11-12 10:00:53 · 28 answers · asked by bubb1e_gir1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Originally Sis was going to stay with her mom but the niece is terrified of dogs and mom-in-law has a one year old black lab. Big dog and very VERY hyper. They were trying to figure out what to do with the dog so to save the trouble hubby and I offered the house. We don't own the air mattress we are borrowing it from a friend so the twin is our only option.
2006-11-12 10:13:51 · update #1
We can move the air mattress to the living room. I hadn't thought of that. Don't know why. *shrugs* lol. It seem quite obvious.
2006-11-12 10:16:54 · update #2
Sorry. Personally I don't think that is right. I would hate to have to sleep on a couch and i would hate it if my daughter slept in a seperate room than me. I think that you should put your sister and niece in your room, you can sleep on the air mattress, and your husband can sleep on the couch.
If you dont like that idea, put the air mattress in the same room as the couch is in. That way your sister and her daughter can sleep in the room, yet they will be in seperate beds, and you and your husband will get to keep your bed. And also, your niece can sleep on the couch if she wants and your sister can sleep on the air mattress, or they can both sleep on the air mattress. If you do it this way, you will have many more choices.
I think your fortress idea was a good idea. Play around with the idea and the rooms. And remember that even though you dont have alot of room in your house, you should still make your guests feel special, welcome, and loved. Happy Thanksgiving, God Bless! I hope my ideas helped.
2006-11-12 10:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't mind..but... I would rather sleep with my daughter on the airmatress instead of me on the couch an she on another room, your niece is still too young and she might feel out of place when sleeping somewhere other than her own comfy bed and house. I am sure your sis in law wouldn't mind at all. But you should let her know about your plans ahead of time. By the way, I would never ever ever sleep in other couple's bed, my grandma always said that the bed of a couple is sacred, she didn't allow us to even sit on their bed, she used to say that we always have to respect the privacy of the couple, I guess that's just some grandma thing, but still...I remember those words. Good luck and I am sure you will have a great thanksgiving, despite where everybody sleeps.
2006-11-12 18:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's totally fine. Is the air mattress big enough for two? If room permits why not set the air mattress up in the office so they can sleep together but still have "their own room". This is a time to be thankful and I am sure your sister in law will be thankful to be with family and not in a hotel.
2006-11-12 18:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your home. I would feel uncomfortable if I thought I'd run my hosts out of their own bed. I think that would be okay, but you might offer the sister-in-law the air mattress unless the couch is a fold-out. That way she would have more privacy. You might also consider, if there is room and you can afford it, getting a full size air mattress that they could share in the spare room.
2006-11-12 18:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is, she is staying your house, she doesn't want to stay at a motel so she should be happy with what you give her. I don't think you are being inconsiderate at all. If her daughter doesn't feel comfortable sleeping in the office maybe she can sleep in the living room with her parents on the air mattress? I would suggest that... but her taking your bed.. NOPE. Hope that helps... Good Luck!!!
2006-11-12 18:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i would not be offened.
If they don't want to go to a hotel that the arrangements you make for them have to satisfactory.Dont put yourself out of your bed as some already said they will think it will happen everytime.If the air matress is big enough for them then i would think they would be fine.Well gooluck to whatever you decide.Beside your bedroom/bed is a private thing you know what i mean lol
2006-11-12 18:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by shari225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't be offended; if things are too close, I'd get a hotel room if possible. From your standpoint, maybe you could book a room for them and pay the bill; it'd probably be less hassle in the long run. Some people just assume they'll be welcome in your house; giving up your bed just seems a little much to me; I'd never even think of doing that for friend or family.
2006-11-12 18:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by bongfuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not speak to your sis in law and see what she has to say. I'm sure she would not want to put you out or inconvenience you in any way. Why not put the air mattress in the room with the sofa so she can be in the same room with her child.
2006-11-12 18:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just fine.
There is no reason why you should be put out so much, after all it is an imposition to have company in the first place. If it were your mom and dad, or your grandparents THEN I might suggest giving up your bed, but for anyone else I think it is perfectly appropriate to put them where ever there is room.
2006-11-12 18:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this sounds like a plain!
The little girl might be a little shy about sleeping all by herself in a strange place, but your plain might change this idea!
Give up the bed to company, don't think so lol! Then again we do not have company maybe this is why lol! We have critters who I do not think would ever let anyone stay in our room anyhoo......
2006-11-12 18:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋