Please help me as I need advice on how to get rid of my fiance. He is very mean and cheats. I still love him though.
2006-11-12 09:32:30 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get out of this relationship now, it's causing stress for you and your baby. You don't need that kind of man in your life!
2006-11-12 09:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is organize your finances and future.
Have a place to go that is safe. There are many local services for women like yourself that can help you.
If you have family, call someone to help you. They don't have to give you money or a place to live, but they can help you figure out your options and be a support system.
Go to court. After your baby is born, get that child support. You don't need a man to take care of you, but he does need to take responsibilities for his own actions. And so do you. Staying with someone who is 'mean' and unfaithful is good for no one.
Love is blind, it is time for you to step out into the light. See the big picture. Your life is much more than just him and now it is doubled with a baby in your life. There is someone greater than him out there that would make a great partner in life.
2006-11-12 09:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by michituckygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
still love him?????? why??? You want advice to get rid of him, he is very mean and cheats but you still love him!!!!!!!!!!! First will you still love him when he beats you and makes you lose the baby???? Will you still love him when he brings other women home????????? Or even worse brings home a sexual transmitted disease home to you and the new baby....Walk away. If you do not have help from family or friends look into a shelter for women and children...But remember you already see he is no good so leave now...
2006-11-12 09:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats hard and im only 13 so may sound stuiped coming from a 13 year old but here it goes does your boyfriend no your pregnant becuase if he does then he should stop cheating first you need to think wthats best for your child and if its staying with your boy-frined thats the answer then tell him you want him to stop for you child and maybe move some where new and start over if not for you do it for the child
2006-11-12 09:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's mean and you still love him. Don't have or keep this child. Don't put any child in that position that you are. You obviously don't care enough about yourself and have let yourself get in this position ( you are still calling him your fiance) and you have to ask what to do. If you stay he will teach the same thing to the child. Don't do that to another person. You can stay but don't put an innocent child in that position. That's cruel and irresponsible.
2006-11-12 09:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some serious thinking to do. First of all, why do you love someone who is mean to you and cheats on you? Secondly, you need to decide where are you going to live, assuming that you live with him now.
Find a place to live and tell him that you are leaving him because he is not honest and his cheating is unacceptable.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-12 09:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love a person and not be in love with them. This man isnt respecting you. He has cheated and is mean to you. Its hard being a single parent but there are plenty of woman that make it work. Make sure he is helps with childcare and with the birth of his child. He isnt thinking right now that he could harm his unborn child by sleeping around hopefully he is using protection. He isnt ready to be a husband but maybe he will make a better father. Hopefully this child make him see the importance of family.
2006-11-12 09:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when people get on here and insult people b/c of the questions they ask. You are here for advice and someone calls you stupid for no reason. You are not stupid b/c you want to know how to handle a situation and everybody needs help once and a while...okay enough about that.....Honey, take it from me if he cheats on you once and you let him get away with, he will continue to cheat b/c you didn't stop him the first time...You have to think about you and your baby now, children learn by watching....would you want your son to learn that it is okay to cheat on his woman? or your daughter to accept that it is okay for her man to cheat on her? I say leave him...easier said than done, but the choice is yours...
2006-11-12 10:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by fiveftelevenqt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get rid of him by leaving him put him under a peace bond. If he cheats on you now ,surely your not thinking marrying a overbearing abusive cheater. He'll beat you and your life will be a living hell. If you don't think about yourself think about that little baby your bringing into a torture house.\
2006-11-12 09:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still love him but you shouldn't let him walk over you. He's been mean to you. I KNOW how hard it is when one is pregnant and have to face a breakup. My bf left me when I was pregnant. It was hard but time helps you to heal. Just talk to him and leave him. Now your priority is the little one and you should do what's better for both of you. Even when you still love him be strong and leave him, you'll be better without him. Just go and do it!!!!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-12 09:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to entertain the idea that you do not love him, that your ego or fear of being alone is putting the "love" label on this relationship disaster. Stand up and dare to raise your child without the influence of this totally wrong man.
2006-11-12 09:48:19 · answer #11 · answered by cindy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋