I'm a christian girl. I don't go to church often but I still believe in god. Some people say that sex is a sin. What if it makes your boyfriend pleased or even yourself does that mean god is upset with you if you have sex?
2006-11-12 09:23:14 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sex before marriage is a sin yes !!
2006-11-12 09:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by puppylovetfp.com 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Having sex is more than a natural thing.
According to Christianity, having sex before marriage is a sin, but having sex after getting married is something completely normal and natural, satisfaction included.
If having sex before getting married is a sin for you or not, is something you need to decide. You need to decide if you completely accept and try to follow the teaching of the church. Some people do, some people don't. you are free to chose.
Concerning God I think that God is love and forgivness, not a big bad guy waiting to punish us for our sins. So even if we sin, we can always repent and try again.
2006-11-12 09:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, sex is not a sin, even in most forms of Christianity. Unsanctified sex is a sin... that is, sex within a relationship that is not blessed by God (usually a marriage). Remember, God's the one that said "go forth and multiply." Can't do that without sex.
So, no, sex itself is not a sin. Now... you having sex with your boyfriend... I guess what worries me most about your question is the way you ask "what if it makes your boyfriend pleased or even yourself" like pleasing yourself is less important than pleasing your boyfriend. Honey, it has to be about you first. Are you okay with it? Are you doing it just to make him happy, because if you are then you'll end up feeling all kinds of horrible guilty emotions. But if you are both enjoying it, and if it makes you feel closer then that's probably a good thing. It is, after all, a good thing to feel close and affectionate with people. Hugging, kissing, holding hands. makes you feel kind of warm and fuzzy. happy, right? Well, where do you draw the line? It's about people touching and connecting with one another.
Is it a sin, and is God upset with you? Well, do you think that God gets angry about you feeling good? Do you feel bad about it? Because if God loves you, then he'll probably worry more about how you feel than how he is "supposed" to feel. How do you feel, and if you're not sure how you feel, what would make you feel better? what would make you more comfortable? What would make you better able to appreciate the wonderful things that God has given you?
2006-11-12 09:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by barnett811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, God hasn't come down and issued any proclamations lately, so you're going to get lots of different answers. Really, you have to decide for yourself. Sex in general is certainly not a sin; in fact, it's a necessity, if we want to keep the species going. Enjoying sex isn't a sin, either. God made our bodies this way for a reason. It's up to you to decide whether sex outside of marriage is a sin or not. Personally, I feel that as long as you are not hurting yourself or anyone else (um, unless you're into that sort of thing), then everything's fine.
2006-11-12 09:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is meant for marriage and if you have it before marriage or after marriage with someone other than your partner, then it is a sin. 1 Tessalonians 4:1-8 and 1 Corinthians 6:19. These are good Bible verses about sexual immorality. I go to church too, and I did have sex before marriage with someone I loved dearly, and we had a child and she is now 3. I am unmarried and single and it is very hard. Even though she is my greatest accomplishment and best friend, I wish I would have been married before so she could have a true family like all kids deserve.
2006-11-12 09:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by confuzed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not a sin, Christianity says it is to repress women so that the only time you have sex is to make more Christians, it is an out dated concept. if you are in love and of an age that you can make these important decisions for your self then you are fine. Be responsible, use protection. The body is a temple that should be allowed to sexually express itself, there is no sin in that.
2006-11-12 09:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon,
Sex in not a sin. It is something that was designed by God for his children to enjoy but in marriage. If you are being forced by someone, please believe me that it's not worth it. Men like to tell girls if they love them then they would do it but that is a load of bull. I am a christian and believe me I know it's possible to wait for the right person that God has for you. If we would all do that maybe there would not be so many divorces in the world today. Wait my dear it is all worth it in the end. Having sex outside of marriage does something to a person that destroys their self love. WAIT! WAIT! WAIT! God loves you and he will see you through this but do not throw away your dignity for a few minutes of pleasure that is not worth it.Take care and pray about the matter but under no circumstance do you give in to that temptation. All God's best to you and stay strong in the Lord.
2006-11-12 09:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by michelle c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just to balance all the religious people who will tell you the opposite, I want you to hear from someone who feels that sex is not a sin! It is, though, a very important decision- to have sex with someone and there is a big responsibility- to protect yourself from disease, to not get pregnant unless you both want and are ready for a child.
Even though I am old
Best wishes from a grandma-aged person.
PS- don't ever have sex ONLY because you want to please the guy. Bad reason!
2006-11-12 09:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sex is a sin because God doesn't want you to cling on to earthly possessions such as sex... You know he wants you to follow in his footsteps.....the thing is you would be surprised to figure out that almost everything is a sin according to the bible but you also need to know that Jesus died on the cross for every ones sins so in a way its okay to sin but you shouldn't intentionally do something that you know is bad..... but hey I guess everyone wants to do what they aren't suppose to anyways.........
2006-11-12 09:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is a sin if you do it out of wedlock. in order for it not to be a sin you must be married. God does get upset, because He loves you and does not want you to ruin your life or get hurt. just ask for forgiveness if you are truly sorry and renew your virginity until marriage.
2006-11-12 09:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by crzyhottie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only time it is a sin is if you have sex outside of marriage. It doesn't matter if it makes your boyfriend happy or not.
2006-11-13 11:37:19 · answer #11 · answered by daydreamer862005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋