This girl and I have been hanging out for a while, but she still isn't over her x. It was getting frustrating and I kind of blew up. I apologized and told her everthing that I felt. Part of me wants to say, "forget about her" but the other part wants to keep talking to her and try to get to the next step past a friendship.
What do you think I should do? Should I persue it? Give it some time? Say screw it?
Thanks
2006-11-12 08:52:46 · 15 answers · asked by aureliusrocker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, it sounds like she really was hurt by her ex. I say just keep being her friend, but don't persue her solely. If you find someone else who is great, I say feel free to date her!
2006-11-12 08:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your frustrations are understood. There comes a time that a person should get on with their lives and forget the x's. Since I dont know how much time has passed in the x and her being seperated, its hard for me to analyze. However being that you have blown up and told her how you felt, I feel that she does owe you some kind of feedback. I would go to her, tell her I was sorry for blowing up and tell her that I meant what I said about my feelings towards her and see what her response is. She should give you some type of answer. Then you will know whether to pursue this or say screw it and move on with your life. Life is too short to second guess someones intentions. Its time for her to be honest with you. Good luck!!
2006-11-12 09:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her a little more time to get over her "Ex".
It depends on if you have known her for a while or just met and are hanging out together.
I say this because if you already know (years) this girl then there could be chance that she can truly understand how you are feeling about her. Then maybe you can show her how much different you can treat her.
If you just met her in the past few weeks. Then you know you are the one who is seeking for a relationship and she is just letting you tag along for a ride in her world of drama.
If in that case, you need to leave her alone and you will find the right person in time.
Good Luck! :o)
2006-11-12 09:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by It's just me!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say back off for a while and if she doesnt try to call you or talk to you then she's not that interested. Here's a secret : If a girl likes you she's gonna let ya know; we're not much for games. Find a better girl. There are plenty of them out there. MOVE ON BABE!!!
2006-11-12 09:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by foxyred0220 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time... it'll take more time for her to get over the ex if she was in the realationship a long time... & the deeper the attachment was, the longer it'll take.
Just because the relationship is over, it doesn't mean the mess of emotions are over... it takes time for that.
Hope this helped.
2006-11-12 08:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. But be aware that maybe she doesn't like you in the same way you like her. It's possible that she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you this, so shes looking for a way out of it.
2006-11-12 08:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Megafunk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand you likeing this girl but apparently she isn't over her ex yet when she is ready she will get over her ex in her time not the time span you want her to for now i would be just a friend to her dont push her into something she isn't ready for
2006-11-12 08:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by precious_52806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. i was totally in this situation..recently! i was trying to get over this guy && found out that this other guy liked me..my advice to you is to keep trying because i eventually got over the first guy && started liking the guy who liked me. you just have to be patient && understand what she's going thru. also help her out thru the long haul && she'll understand what a great friend you are && she'll most likely consider being your girlfriend..good luck && i hope i helped!
2006-11-12 08:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she wants, ask if she wants to go out, just be friends, or take your time and see where it goes. Be sure to try your hardest not to pressure her in any way, and assure her that no matter what you will respect her decision and remain her friend (be sure to respect her decision and remain her friend). Good luck!
2006-11-12 08:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Becca M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may not be ready for dating yet depending on when she broke up with her ex. At this point, be a friend and when it feels right, let her know how you feel.
2006-11-12 09:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by patgd25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋