I love my father, and I know he's the adult so you guys will say he can do whatever he wants, but it really, really annoyes me when he swears. Everywhere I turn I hear the F word come out of his mouth. He knows I don't like it, and I've told him this many times. And my brother, mother, and sister don't like it either. And he knows we don't like it. It seems like he does it to annoy us. Or maybe he just swears because he's mad. But either way, if he knows we don't like it, I don't think he should do it. But I have no idea why he does it. Please tell me how I can get this to stop, and why he does it. Thanks!!!!
2006-11-12 08:40:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MJC: I understand where you were coming from when you send he probably picked it up from his father. But actually his father HATED swearing. His mother didn't like it either. He does have 2 sisters who will swear sometimes, but not nearly as much as him.
2006-11-12 08:44:49 · update #1
Its habit, ignore him! Perhaps he feels this is the only way to get attention.
2006-11-12 08:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 5⤊ 4⤋
I guess you have told him that you dont like it.
I would try doing it with love. Tell him it makes you feel sad when he swears. That the world is so full of hate and ugliness that you want to be in a home that is not like that world outside. A little bit of peace.
If that does not work, leave him notes and quotes about the effect of a parents behaviour on children. Ask him why he is such an angry man and if there is anything you can do to help me. He will feel ashamed if he is wise enough, and straighten out his act.
You could tape him when he has these bouts, and collect them over days, and then let it run in a hidden place of the house when he is alone...
2006-11-12 16:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by dansza 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to ignore him, since you can't seem to do anything about it. (My parents swear, and it bothers me, but if we told them, they'd stop) And you probably don't want to yell at him to stop... though that COULD be a suggestion...(though yes, I know it's rude... it's just that sometimes people listen to other yelling people.) So just ignore him, and maybe if he knows he's not bothering you or your family anymore, then he'll stop. Or when's he angry, just walk away (if possible). It's also most likely a force of habit... so many people swear today, and it IS sort of annoying. Maybe you could tell him that swearing doesn't help in any way...? I'm sorry I couldn't come up with anything better, but good luck!
2006-11-12 16:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolate_swirls18 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Understand that you can't get your father to stop swearing, only he can do that. What you can do is tell him how it makes you feel and how that affects the quality of your life. Be as specific as possible. It will give him a lot more information to go on in addition to what you have already told him, that you don't like it.
Good luck
2006-11-12 17:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my son. "F" word & "C" word both when he's talking to his mother or sister. To me it shows a total lack of respect for the person he's talking to.
I would very much like him to stop swearing.
My wife's brother in law is the same, only he's vulgar with it. Very suggestive. Most family now stay away because of the way he talks to people.
I think the only way is for all of you to move away from him. Or move him out. Then you won't have to tolrerate it anymore.
No matter what you say or do, he won't stop.
2006-11-12 16:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by eddie_schaap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just accept your dad the way he is. Just because you dont like swearing doesnt mean he has to stop. Accept him for who he is and if you dont like swearing then you dont do it. As long as its not hurting you or anyone else then leave him alone. Im sure there are more important issues than that, because this one is petty and will cause problems between you two. Don't be selfish !!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-12 17:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by foxyred0220 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably does it out of habit. He either picked it up from his own father, or maybe from work. I'd make a deal with him. Tell him every time he swears you will ask him to put a dollar in a jar to be put toward your college education (or a family vacation). See how that goes...
2006-11-12 16:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Love is the answer, keep sending him love,
do you respond each time he swears?
he's getting your attention. when he swears, pretend not to
hear him. when he realizes that he hadn't gotten a rise
out of you, he might just stop.
one can not stop another from doing anything they choose
to do. yet, YOU can choose not to react.
what do you think he would do if you used the same words
he uses? humm. . . food for thought.
2006-11-12 16:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by hugmatty 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I Don't Know, Try Punching Him In The Face, And Holding The Shift Key When You Write The First Letter Of Each Word. Maybe That Will Change His Mind. So When He Says "f--", He'll Have To Say "F---"...
2006-11-12 16:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
its a hard habit to break, you can try asking him to be more patient, but in the end i don't really think you can do anything. he probably grew up hearing swearing and swore all his life and he can't just stop. most likely he learned it from your grandfather or an older brother and he was always hearing it. my dad swears a lot but only when he's angry, so i try not to get him mad.
2006-11-12 16:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you may think he dose it just to annoy you but it really is kind of a addictions it just sounds right to and he problay fells that what hes saying isnt so bad because its just a word how about you figure out other words for him to use so that it sounds like the word and hell problay after that have no reason to use them
2006-11-12 16:59:56 · answer #11 · answered by roselyn_okoche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋