I have been dating this guy off and on for a year and half and I am having a hard time reading him. We stopped dating for like four months (all him, not me) and there was no communication from that point on.
Then I run into him at a party and he has been calling me for the past four months, we see each other maybe every other week and call each other from time to time to catch up.
When I am around him I get butterflies in my stomach, because I really like him. But I don't know if he feels the same. Should I confess that I am really into him & want to pursue more? Or should I just leave him alone?
2006-11-12 08:28:37 · 15 answers · asked by Miss Sassy Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him and tell him your feelings..
Tell him to love you or leave you so you can move on....
2006-11-12 08:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO a person should NEVER tell someone else they have feelings for them. A lot of what makes a person interested in someone is when that person is mysterious and they have to wonder how they feel about them.
But it sounds like he needs a hint or something to take it to the next level, if he wants to as well. It seems like he should have asked by now, so maybe he is not really interested in taking it further.
But one thing you could do would be to drop hints like crazy, like keep talking about a movie you really want to see, or a restaurant you really want to try. If he is at all interested he will take the bait and ask you on a date. Otherwise he is probably "just not that into you."
2006-11-12 08:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't try to snag him now, someone else will later.
If he's worth the time you've put into it already, talk to him about it. Tell him you don't know how he feels about how things are going, but that you'd like things see him more often and want to see if you two could really have something going.
He'll either fess up and tell you he feels the same way, but was too chicken to tell you or he'll hedge around it and stop calling. Either way you will have your answer and can move on with your life (with or without him) rather than stay in limbo forever.
2006-11-12 08:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by soccermomw3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not as into you as you are into him or he'd be attempting to see you more often, right? So, I wouldn't let him see how much I care. And I'd brace myself to be dumped again on his whim. OR, I'd stop dating him altogether if I didn't soon get vibes that he is getting more serious. It seems he views you as a fun person to date on a casual basis, at this point. It would probably help (both of you) if you had someone else to date, too. If he thinks he has competition, he'll either stop dating you or, if he really cares, step up and declare his intentions. If you decide you can't continue to see him if he isn't all that into you, then you need to tell him that you may have more feelings for him than he has for you and, therefore, you've decided you probably shouldn't see him anymore because you don't want to get hurt. Then, see what he says to that.
2006-11-12 08:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't, you might wish in the future you had. It sounds like it is a on again off again type of relationship. You can just tell him you do have feelings for him and would like to pursue the relationship further. If he doesn't want it, it is time for you to move on. You don't want someone who really isn't that into you. No use letting him give you false hope if he really doesn't have the same feelings.
2006-11-12 08:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that much into him, tell him how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same way about you, he's already proved that it is possible to not see each other for a long time. So tell him how you feel, and it'll all work out from there.
2006-11-12 08:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be doing nothing wrong by asking him if he sees you and him getting anywhere,,let him know you are after a boyfriend,,you like him a lot but dont want to miss the opportunity of missing someone special because you are thinking about him,,nothing wrong with honesty and you are not saying anything horrible about him,,quite the opposite,,you just dont want to waste your time if you and he are never going to get back together,,saying something along those lines doesnt mean you cant be friends but it will enable you to look elsewhere and maybe say 'yes' if another man asks you out.
2006-11-12 08:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't...give it more time....if he is interest he would make the situation so someday...but u did not mention did u feel he has same sort of feel towards you?
i would say plzz dont u may get it all spoiilt...now as if u can see him talk to him..if he starts on that he can be avoiding u if u rn't sure how he will value ur feelings...
2006-11-12 08:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl r u crazy. tell him your feelin if he doesn't like u the way u do to him then tell him 'your mistake. then when u go home cry your heart out cause u can never let a guy see u cry. that wiil be embarassin. if he does feel the same then go for it girl.
2006-11-12 08:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Stacey l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should tell him, i dont see why not..being open about your feelings will not only make you feel much better but will also clear the clouds this guy might have over his head..lol..he might not know you like him as much and is getting mixed signals from you..men arent psychic..they cant tell whats wrong unless you tell them..good lukc,
2006-11-12 08:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is, he wants his space. Personally, I couldn't put up with a relationship like that forever, so I would tell him because I wouldn't want things to stay that way.
2006-11-12 08:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋