Please help. My son is three years old and I think he's a prodigy child. It's embarrassing because he keeps correcting my grammer in front of my friends. He says things like "It's whom, daddy! It's whom! Not who, whom!" He also keeps asking me if he can finish the crossword when I start struggling. What shall I do with him? It's so stressful. Every night when he's in bed, I'm in my armchair feeling totally exhausted with my head in my hands. He wants the 'Complete Works Of Shakespear' for Christmas. Why can't he have 'Thomas The Tank Engine' like most bloody kids? Please help! Don't tell me it mustn't be my kid because he has my nose, ears and dances similar to me, but only better. Help, before I smack the gloating git!
2006-11-12 08:21:26 · 18 answers · asked by gulliblepeople 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
get real, would you rather be sitting in a hospital waiting for the doctor to tell if he is going to live after surgery or maybe enrolling him in children with needs programs or hoping that he will hear. see or speak someday?
2006-11-12 08:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by eve 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he's only 3 and he's asking for Shakespeare and correcting grammar, he's either well taught by those around him (the correcting you on "whom" could be a repeated habit from somewhere, and interest in Shakespeare could just be silliness that someone put him up to), or you may want to look into having him evaluated. Being gifted, or even a genius or savant, if either are the case, isn't something you can retrain by taking him to a pizza place or spending hours in an arcade, he's likely to just get bored. If your son is showing these tendencies this early, it's going to take a slightly different parenting approach (from the educational aspect), and you'll want professional advice on how to go about nurturing his abilities. And yes, be proud that he's so smart.
2006-11-12 16:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by desiderio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smart kids can be a challenge.... Maybe he's old enough to understand if you ask him not to correct you in front of people. You could also try pointing out that casual conversation is not subject to the same grammatical rules as formal writing.
My son was a bright boy, but not quite as intellectual as what you're describing. We discovered he could read when he opened a childproof bottle by reading the instructions. In addition, he had some psychic abilities ("Mom, why are you thinking about Steve?"--kept me in line, I can tell you!).
I suggest getting him into a program where he can be among his own kind-- other smart kids. This child will have a hard time if he's put among children of average intelligence. Take heart, though-- often smart kids will tone down when they get a little older and discover video games, etc.
Please don;t smack him. Look for support among other parents of advanced kids. And just think, maybe he'll get rich early and support you in your old age!
2006-11-12 16:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to be embarassed! Be proud of your son! I would check on some programs in your town that would encourage this overly intellectual 3 year old child. Think of it this way, you can learn right a long side him! A gifted child is just as challenging as a child that has a learning disorder, even a child that learns at a normal rate. All children need something to keep their brains working. God gives you the child he sees fit for you, go with it!!
2006-11-12 16:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs*HEBA*HOOD©â?¢ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being as smart as he is you can teach him it is not polite to correct you if there are others around. Then do the happy dance that you have a bright, healthy child that will succeed in life. He needs to get into a program for gifted kids as soon as you can find one. I know some schools wont let you start kids in school before age four but I would look around.
2006-11-12 16:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Nani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is, be grateful you have a child like that.
Some of us would give anything not to have to struggle everyday to teach our children and get them to the same learning level as other kids who don't have a mental disability.
I can kind of understand you feeling lost as to how to deal with it, but feeling like smacking him for being a genius? If only i had just one thing to gloat about with my son.
Just thank God for the obvious gift you've been given.
2006-11-12 17:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by harttattoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does indeed sound as if you have a very gifted child.
The first thing I have to say is do not stifle this kid. He needs to know that that being smart is not bad. Honey, it's awesome!!! You should encourage him every chance you have. You should also look into a pre-school that will challenge him. The last thing that you want is for this kid to get bored & discouraged. He has a gift that you should help him develop. Good luck
2006-11-12 16:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by jodi g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to never correct another person's speech in public and if you really dont want this gifted child then send him off to boarding school when he turns 5.
think about it this way.... your kids will be the ones taking care of you when you are old and gray and cant take care of yourself. since your son has so much potential(or so you say) then he could make a LOT of money. depending on how you raise him and how you treat him now, then he will either love you and get the best care for you when you are old, or he will remember how you were a jack*ss to him and were jealous of his inelligence and he will just blow you off. its YOUR future here, so treat this kid well!
2006-11-12 17:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same about my kid sometimes. You should embrace him for who he is. I would larn to appreciate it now because maybe when he's older he might not be so passionate about learning. I believe it's our fault as parents that kids now at days just want to sit in front of a television. It sounds like there's someone in his life who is teaching him about finner things in life besides toys. And about him correcting you, it's ok. Kids always want to be smarter than their parents. And that's good. I would thank him for correcting me and move on. It's only a big deal if you make it one.
2006-11-12 16:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by chelly01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is act like a "normal" child along with him. Take him to an arcade, or Chuck e cheeses, or something where he can regain his inner kid. You shouldn't be embarrassed. Some children can barely speak at age 3, and others have special needs.
I hope this answers your question!
2006-11-12 16:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's nice to have a son who is really smart. that way you can learn more from him and he can learn from you too. You can never change him. You should be proud of him. Who knows?
he might be the next Einstein!
GoOd LuCk!!
2006-11-12 16:26:52 · answer #11 · answered by Jelly(: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋