I'm from Germany and there guys usually only pay, if they want something from the girl.
Now that I'm here, I get invited all the time and I'm wondering if all the guys "expect" something.
I don't want to be rude and deny any invitation so I try also to buy the drinks every now and then but somehow the boys are always "ahead" of me.
Is it just polite in England? Or do they only invite girls because they want something?
2006-11-12 07:59:51 · 18 answers · asked by annacachetona 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
@dan t
I'm sorry. But i dont think I'm moaning at all!
There are differences between cultures and sometimes they are puzzling.
I love England, i love english people and I actually like the fact that they are so polite!
2006-11-12 08:14:47 · update #1
If it was a date - dinner, movie, drink - without *expecting* anything
chatting up - a drink or three - without *expecting* anything
friendly - a drink or two - without *expecting* anything
2006-11-12 08:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by Vinni and beer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, most men do want something, either at the outset, or are attracted to the other, and do indeed just wish to get to know them a bit better. Traditionally, males do expect to pay, at least on first date. If, however, it is an ongoing relationship, then if the lady has money, she may pay on occasion, that way they can go out more often, and maybe do more costly things.
Having said that, I have had women who asked me out first, and expected to pay. Usually we compromised in some way, such as taking turns.
I might add that the wanting something goes both ways. Some females want a man, and are not bashful letting it be known.
2006-11-12 08:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definatley agree that there are SOME men who would take a girl out and pay for there meal, to get something else in return.
On the other hand, we used to have this thing in the world called Chivalry, and by some way it has survived through a very small percentage of men out there. Those of us who were raised to be gentleman, believe, that if you invite a woman out for dinner, or lunch, you pay. That's the way I was brought up, and thats the way I am now. Sometimes is causes an issue to come up in my friendship and or relationships, but anyone who knows me knows thats not my intention AT ALL!!!
SO thanks to all the women out there that assume that all guys are jerks and looking to get into the sack!!
Chivalry is not dead, it's just not wanted!!
2006-11-12 08:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by David 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason why guys often pay is usually down to old fashioned English etiquette. It used to be considered more gentlemanly for the man to pay when a couple go out, however these days it's more usual for the couple to "go Dutch", i.e. both pay half.
It's nothing to do with "wanting something" at all. Although it does depend on who you hang around with. There are always some losers who thing you can buy friendship or sex.
2006-11-12 08:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by kpk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In England its just good old fashioned etiquette for the gentlemen to pay for a lady if he invites her out, believe it or not there are still an awful lot of good old fashioned gentlemen out there who's only intention when he asks a lady out is to take her to diner, for a drink or maybe the cinema and not to get her into bed, at one time a gentleman paid every time he took the lady out, when they started going steady or got engaged they generally started splitting the cost of the night out, our men our lovely and thankfully some are still gentlemen too.
2006-11-12 11:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it used to be that a guy would pay for a girl and not necessarily expect anything in return but u sound like a modern kinda girl who stands and pays her own corner good on you and no we don't all expect something in return but sometimes things happen and you can always stick the brakes on from the start and say just exactly where the party's going or not as the case may be
2006-11-12 08:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by towerlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are out with a group of people, it is quite normal for each person to buy a round of drinks.
If a strange man wants to buy you a drink, yes he probably wants something.
If you are on a date with a guy, he will usually try to buy the drinks - let him buy at least the first one, but buy one for him later, and it doesn't mean he expects anything from you.
Hope this helps!
2006-11-12 08:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 08:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by pellenz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men should be gentlemen no matter what the country. Men are supposed to look out for the fairer sex. It is just the way it is, who wants to be around some namsy pamsy guy anyway...
2006-11-12 08:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO blokes should pay for a girl in England its considered polite and if they ask you out then yes they should pay although not all the time but the first date definitely. Blimey I'm glad I have not been out with any german blokes then they wouldn't last five minutes - tight gits.
2006-11-12 08:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋