My boyfriend has been kind of suspicious of me and thinks that I would cheat on him. Well, yesterday he found out about a friend I have that I talk to on the phone a lot and he asked me if I cheated on him and says he doesn't like that I can't talk to him about everything. The truth is, I don't feel like I can. I said no but my boyfriend could tell I have feelings for this other guy so he left.
I went over to that guy's house and we kissed for awhile and I lied to my boyfriend and than when I got home, my boyfriend came over. And...I didn't tell him about the other guy. Part of me thinks I should, but it will hurt him SO much. Why would I do that to him? But, I feel guilty and don't want to have a relationship based on lies...Honestly, I don't know if I will cheat again... But I love my boyfriend, so I thought...What should I do?
2006-11-12 07:43:41 · 27 answers · asked by catanomicsunset 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he had cheated on you, would you want him to lie about it and probably keep doing it while stringing you along? You seem annoyed that he has been suspicious and asking questions, but you have given him every reason to. It's not fair to lead someone on, if you want to be with the other guy, then it's time to break up with your boyfriend, you can't try both of them out and pick later. It's just not fair. It sounds like you're not as happy with your boyfriend as you thought you were or should be.
2006-11-12 07:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Irish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You kissing this guy was proof hat your boyfriend was right when he was suspicious. If you really love him then you should stop all the lying and cheating and come clean about it because if he can't trust you your relationship won't last. You need to think about whether you really love him as much as you say you do because you seem to like this other guy so maybe it isn't the best time for you to be in a relationship.
2006-11-12 15:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Tell him. You have to. He may break up with you, but honestly, you deserve it.
He may be suspicious because he understands that part of you that drove you to already cheat on him. Lying about it will NOT construct a good relationship. Just be extra nice when you tell him, thats all you can do. Why can't you just tell him everything? Is that really so f-ing hard?
2006-11-12 15:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Absent Glare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! your right you could hurt him,,and he would hate you for that,,why do you kiss another guy if you really love your boyfriend,,,and kiss would lead to another level which is more scary right...your right,,having a relationship base on lies will never work out ,,if you like the guy you just kiss,,break up with your boyfriend,and then kiss the other guy whole day,,,put yourself in your boyfriends shoes,,how would you feel if he kisses another girl,,,? keep the faith ..
2006-11-12 15:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Diet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should have a time 4 urself, see whether u think more of ur boyfriend or the other guy.. that will determine ur real feeling. if u dont think of ur bf that much, then the possibility of u cheating again is very high...
so if u dont wanna hurt him, do wats best(dump or stick to him) by knowing ur real feeling towards him 1st.
and about that kissing.. imagine him kissing another girl. would u want him to tell u? if yes, then u have 2 tell him, if no then dont.
there's no real right or wrong thing in here. its all about ur feeling. good luck!
2006-11-12 15:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by tiiista 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, there's no question about it you did something wrong and keeping that secret will make you have that guilt as long as your with him. In every case no matter what it is ,the truth is always right.
You might break up with him as a result ,but know that you deserve it.And maybe he isn't the one for you you still have the guy you kissed.
2006-11-12 15:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by krisice456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with your boyfriend, you went over to another boy's house and kissed him for a while, do not kiss and tell, unless you want to break-up with him.
2006-11-12 15:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy in most cases...so start by being honest with yourself. You are attracted to the other guy and you have feelings for both men...you need to figure out whom you want in your life and dicipline yourself to be true to one man...If you can't do that- then you're not being true to yourself and every relationship you have will be fruitless as far as true happiness goes.
2006-11-12 15:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you cheated on your boyfriend. So, he has a right to not trust you.
Maybe you should stop dating for a while, until you become mature enough to understand what a healthy relationship is.
2006-11-12 15:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his shoes and then ask yourself again! Would you like to know about it from his own mouth and be hurt or be kept in the dark and found out from others?
2006-11-12 15:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋