I have played tennis since i was 5, and my dad is very determind on me becoming a profesional. All my life I have wanted this too, but now that I am older and know my options, I am not so sure that i want this dream anymore. Now it is time for me to choose a collage, and I could go to one on full tennis scholorship, or I could go to another one, not become a teinnis player, and break my father's heart. What should I do?
2006-11-12 07:38:22 · 7 answers · asked by D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can't live out other ppl's dreams in order to make them happy, you have to do what makes you happy first, i know that's your dad and you love him...but he must respect your feelings as well...do whats best for you, if you don't want to live out this tennis dream anymore..well then he must understand that, you should never get yourself in that kind of bind...because you will always find yourself trying make others happy...even when it's not right for you.
2006-11-12 07:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire anyone who can play a sport or who has had a parent who dedicated themselves to your success. There does come a point I'm sure in every athelets life that they question, and wonder if perhaps a parent is living vicariously in their encouragement. It's natural to question motives and your own goals in life at your age. I really don't think ANYONE really knows what dream they are going for entering college. Along the way, the dream may change or become altered in some fashion. You can't predict what will happen. My honest opinion in this situation is that you should take the tennis scholarship to because you have "earned" it and it's an accomplishment on your part. It will also get you a fine education. While you're in school there will be other things you will become interested in besides tennis. Then, perhaps, you would consider a double-major. In the meantime, consider going to a school on the full scholarship away from home; out of state, to give you some distance from your Dad. There will be so many changes in college that you're not prepared for, tennis will be the one thing you know you do and do well. Also, this automatic acceptance will expose you to alot of people you can network into opportunities for your own future. This is very important! You will need that reassurance as a freshman to relieve stress in other areas of adjustment. If after the first year, you clearly do not want to continue, then make a change and tell your Dad you honestly tried. If you complete a full scholarship and slip in a double major you're going to be a very skillful and diverse person. You might consider talking to a counselor about this also. I'm sure it would break his heart just as much if he thought you just did this for him, not for yourself. I wish you well. Godloveya.
2006-11-12 15:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you want to go to a university on a tennis scholarship. It must be nice to have so many options. Some people don't have those options. You can still go to university on a tennis scholarship, but it doesn't mean you must become a pro tennis player .... it does mean you get a free or almost free university education.
Considering some people are not gifted at certain sports, and cannot afford a university education ... your making yourself sound a little spoilt. I'm not trying to be nasty, I'm just telling you the truth and how I see it.
2006-11-12 15:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to TELL your father what you are thinking now. He may be disappointed but i'm sure he will support whatever decision you may make.
2006-11-12 15:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really dont need to do what your father says. he has his life, you have yours. Follow your heart. pray, you will get the right answer. I know you will choose what you want to do. Remember, this is YOUR life; how do YOU want to live it?
2006-11-12 15:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father will get over it...and if he truly loves you he'll want you to do what is in your heart to do (not his).
It's your life...you need to live it for you, not anyone else...others had the chance to make their lives what they wanted...this is your turn.
Good luck!
2006-11-12 15:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if you can get free college go for it and after your out of the house do what you want
2006-11-12 15:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋