i know it sounds faiy tailish, but i want to find true love. i need that void in my heart filled. when will i find him? how will i know i've found him and it's not just another mistake?
2006-11-12 07:29:31 · 28 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trish...true Love will find you. It's not something that you search for or can pick up on the fly. When it is real and it's what is meant to be, it will be. You simply have to be careful not to look past what might already be right in front of you. To be truly loved, you have to be able to be loved and you have to have the ability to see love through a telescope rather than a microscope. Look at the men in your life past and present. Those little things that hurt you in past relationships and the things you had no tolerance for...are all stepping stones. Meant to teach you and give you insight as to what kind of man you should spend your life with. Learn from your mistakes and above all be sure that you possess the same qualities that you are looking for in your soul mate. If you are lacking- the men in your life will be lacking also. Review your standards...are you a good catch? -are you the person that your desired man would see as a possible soul mate? Keep your self-respect, love yourself, and hold yourself to the same standards you hold your partner...if you don't measure up...he never will either.
2006-11-12 07:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you go out looking for your "true love," take a moment to figure out what that means.
The person you will spend the rest of your life with will be human, in that they won't be perfect. They might be perfect for you, but they are not a specimen of perfection by any means. He will not be able to read your mind or do everything just the way you want it done. Rather, they will make mistakes (hundreds everyday) but will have the heart to try to make you happy the best they can.
Love is about give and take. That means that there are two people who want to be loved, not just one. Just as you are wanting someone to love you and who is trustworthy, so is the other person. You both will be wanting that out of one another. So the love you give that person should be equal to the love you receive from that person. If there should ever arise an inequality in the amount given or received, then the relationship will suffer or may even fail.
Your true love will be your best friend for life, which is a very, very rare thing to find. They will be your lover, in that they will learn how to pleasure you and you will learn how to pleasure them (this is not known automatically). They will also help to be a guide for your life. You will make plans together about what you want to do with your lives and then you will set these plans in motion.
With all of this in mind, the question of whether or not you will find your true love is dependent on whether you can work as a team with someone.
2006-11-12 07:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, yes the void in your heart. Although finding true love is good and will most likely happen if you look. BUT you should try to fill the void with only your true love. The void is far too large to be filled by anyone. Except Jesus. I'm not trying to force anything on you, please don't think that I am. But really, accepting God for who he is into your heart will fill the void, and give you something to live for. Just, seriously, trust me it works. It'll be a better solution than anything else in the world.
Email me if you wanna talk.
2006-11-12 07:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sam-Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever notice the wedding anniversaries page of a newspaper? It's filled with stories of people who have been married 50 years or more. So I think true love can exist and never fade? If we can look at each other the way God looks at us, seeing through all the faults and loving us to the same degree, then we can find "true love" with each other. It isn't easy, to be sure, but nothing worth having ever is.
2016-03-28 03:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a soul mate out there for each of us. Sometimes it just takes a little longer to find the match. But trust me when I tell you that you will find him or he you, and probably when you are least expecting it. Until then bide your time and be happy because live is far to short to feel otherwise. Best of luck in your search for true love and keep you eyes and mind open.
2006-11-12 07:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love is out there, just listen to your heart and you will know when you find it. For me it was when i couldn't go one minute without thinking about her. We swept each other off out feet from the first time out eyes met. Unfortunatly even true love doesn't last forever. Life circumstances have forced us to part but she will always live in that deep place in my heart. Keep looking, you will find it.
2006-11-12 07:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I exist and you're probably closer to finding me then you may have though!
If you want to find me then you'll have step away from the keyboard and answer yourself some fairly difficult questions...
"What do I want out of life?"
"What do I want in a relationship?"
"What does love mean to me?"
"What am I looking for in a partner"
Next it could be beneficial to realize that you need to be on a equal mental and emotional level as someone for a relationship to be healthy (otherwise one of you is holding the other back and it will be impossible for your relationship to grow).
It's also important to take your time getting to know the someone. You need to observe them in multiple settings. How does he act around his family? How does he act around his friends? How does he act around your friends and family? How does he act when in public (on the job, etc)?
Take my advice most guys are mooks. Most people are dolts. Take your time and make your life the realistic version of the fairy tale you want to live.
2006-11-12 07:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Aves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first ask yourself is there such a thing as "true love". I believe that you need to find to love someone and the longer you know them and the more you get to know them the more you love them.
2006-11-12 07:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a room full of naked women... if he's the one, then he'll be staring only at you :)
On the more realistic side, it's a feeling you get when he/she looks at you. The way he touches you... and if he can't go a second without you.
2006-11-12 07:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it probably won't be like in a fairy but he will make you feel good and that's good enough. You won't know if it is the right guy you'll just have to continue trying until you make it right.
2006-11-12 07:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by selene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋