So I told this hot guy that I've been talking to that I thought he was hot. He hasn't talked to me since. What the hell is wrong with me? This happens to me all the time. I am honest and forward in what I feel, and guys seem to run away from me. I thought that guys would appreciate honesty. What am I doing wrong?
2006-11-12 07:20:01 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to speak every thought you have. You need some social skills thats all. You are coming on too strong. Guys like to do the chasing. Back off and let them.
2006-11-12 07:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that you are a loser. Which Im pretty sure your not. The way this guy reacted is normal. You need to ask yourself a few questions. How well did you know him? Did he have a partner? Were you his friend? You might want to consider telling him something else next time. Instead of blurting out "You're Hot" Say things like "I like your hair" or pick something you can describe. Don't get down because a few guys have done this. Enjoy life, get back up, and try again. Eventually you will find a guy who will like you to. :)
2006-11-12 07:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by softtailteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do like honesty and confidence in a woman but its a turn off if they are over confident and show signs of aggression.Most guys are allready nervious when when trying to establish a conversation with an attractive girl.This only gets worse when she comes accross in such a way.Tone it down and see if things work better maybe try talking a little less but help keep the conversation going until he feels mmore at ease.
2006-11-12 07:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally ( if I were a girl) would go out with a guy whom I would not normally go out with. Try something new instead of just looking for hot guys ,as sometimes they are less down - to - earth,and way more conceited! Look for a guy who will treat you right! Sit down and make a list of the qualities and desires you want in a guy insted of just settling because you think he is hot!
2006-11-12 07:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they like the thrill of the chase, and you're basically saying, "I am a sure thing." Even if that's true, don't tell them that. Once they know that, they wonder what is wrong with you that there is no competition or difficulty in getting to you. Playing hard-to-get--just a little--may be beneficial. Or just be a little more subtle. Good luck.
Also, there are some guys who might like your strategy. I hope you find one.
2006-11-12 07:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's really insecure and U scared him.
Did he think U wanted to jump on his bones?
I would think that if someone said that to me.
Maybe you need to try a different, more toned down approach.
Instead of just telling someone they R HOT! Tell them why you like them ... mention something about their character or good qualities. That's a better way of connecting with someone rather than saying 'your HOT'.
Just saying 'your HOT' is very superficial.
What do expect a person to say after that?
2006-11-12 07:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by GRNeyzNYC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've noticed that sometimes guys don't like when women say things like that. Next time don't say that to the guy, wait. Most of the times guys like to be the first ones in saying something. Maybe you're honest but that wasn't what they wanted to hear. Do the opposite next time and wait until you're told something
2006-11-12 07:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are being a tad bit too forward! Try talking to someone you like rather than just going up to them and saying "you're hot", sounds a little Paris Hilton-ish!!
2006-11-12 07:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by tmac 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks that you are an aggressive woman and you probably overwhelmed him. Try to be authentic next time and just chat about school, the weather or something real. Leave the "hot" observations to Paris Hilton....
2006-11-12 07:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your not a loser, second of all some guys are intimidated by forward women, by telling you this i do not mean for you to change who you are, basically you haven't met the right guy yet, he will come along and when he does you will understand
good luck and smile big even when it hurts
2006-11-12 07:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋