How to trust after being hurt.....?

Question

I have been lied to, cheated on, misled, and pumped full of so much exaggerated garbage from guys that supposedly cared tremendously for me, only to find out that they were also "caring tremendously" for another girl at the same time, or that there were no actions to be found to support those wonderfully sweet words that they fed me. Some of these guys have even gone so far as to tell me they love me. So, how do I keep all that in mind and keep myself from falling for the same lies again in the future, without being unjustly suspicious of guys that maybe really are good, decent, honest people? I'm always trying to be intelligent about things, but I'm afriad it's getting to the point of being overly suspicious of new guys in my life. This is a question I have given a great deal of thought lately, and I haven't come up with a satisfactory answer. I don't want to jeopardize future happiness but I also don't want to allow so called "men" to think they can get away with this behavior.

Answer 1

Your hurt is very understandable.You can't allways know what the other person is doing in a relationship and this is where trust comes in.We all want to trust someone and not have to think about what may happen if they do go astray.Not all men are this way.Some of us would love to meet someone that feels the same way and would respect a bond between 2 people.Maybe you are attracting this type of person.Look at where you have met these men and see if there is any connection as to the locations.I'm not suggesting that you hang out in the wrong places but maybe the men you meet are there for the purpose of finding women.Just a thought.

Answer 2

I don't really have an answer for you, but this gentleman WILL be praying that you find peace of mind in this matter. Hopefully, some day, your heart will heal, and you'll realize that there ARE good guys like me out there/here, that DO care,and are not like most others you've found so far. Good Luck, And God Bless You.

Answer 3

Okay this is what I suggest....every guy is not the same you seem to attract garbage men you thinking about what they say you you and it takes you to some form of erotic desires for them. It hurts you because you tend to develop feelings for them to early because you want to be loved and you are willing to believe that what they are saying is speaking the truth.....I think that you need to develop some type of filter that will allow you to sift through the junk to find your treasure.....