ok well my friends and i thought it would be funny for one of us to act like his secret admirer so they chose me to do it. so i wrote notes and everything like that to him. i even called him. it was funny for a while but then i started to feel guilty because i have a boyfriend and i was doing this while i was going out with my boyfriend. it feels like i am cheating on him! So since i felt guilty about it i decided to reveal myself and it turns out he actually likes me and now i am not sure how to tell him the truth! so is this considered cheating on my boyfriend? and how should i tell the guy i am currently seeing somebody?
2006-11-12 06:50:41 · 14 answers · asked by skull_love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well gansta u should have never done it!! Dont litsen 2 ur Red Head friend on stuff like this!! She did not mean 4 it 2 go this far!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think you should ask him if you guys should just be ""Friends"" and if he still goes to far tell him about your boyfriend tell him he asked u out and that you and him have SO much in comon!! He will understand cuz he really cares 4 u!!
****(Aarons Party)**** sry just had 2 put that!!
2006-11-15 07:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Olivia♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see you know that the guy that you were doing this to is going to fell great. But from the mess you are now in I think that you might can now see that it is not a joke to toy with someones emotions. I wonder how you might feel is someone did you this way or if you found out that your boyfriend had done this. Now is it cheating, seems like from your letter that you think that it is and isn't that all that matters because it'd you that you have to live with. Might want to try and be honest before everyone involved finds out the true anyway and they always do. Best of luck will be hoping the best for you.
2006-11-12 16:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by bigjg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling guilty about what you are doing that shows you think it is wrong. I think you should be honest with yourself. If you realy love your boyfriend you will tell the other guy it was a game and you don't really have feelings for him. It should not be hard if you really don't like this guy. But the question is are you starting to have feelings for this guy that you don't want to acknowledge because of your boyfriend. The hardest part might be telling your boyfriend about it. I don't think it is cheating per say but more flirting? But that could lead to cheating. So, be careful and be honest with everyone, including yourself.
2006-11-12 14:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by kkolnows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt say it was cheating but definetly decieving. how would ur boyfriend feel if he knew u were doing this? how wold u feel if he was doing to some other girl? playing with someones feelings is wrong and very hurtful. for instance some people arent mentally stable what if he this kid found out u were jus playing w his emotions and truely liked u and couldnt handle this and committed suicide or tried to hurt him self..how would u feel then? i would tell my boyfriend it was a joke and what u did b/c who is to say he wouldnt show ur boyfriend the notes and then what? wrong is wrong and feelings are nothing to play with.
2006-11-12 14:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. You have to tell them both everything and although the truth hurts, at least you come clean. Whatever the consequences are, face the music!!
2006-11-12 15:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you girls were just having fun , that is not cheating. how to tell this guy that you are seeing someone= tell him that you were not certain about the relationship you are having currently but lately its working out great so you want to be with your boyfriend. i hope he understands
2006-11-12 14:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by Obria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is not cheating but it is going to hurt this guy that you led him on. i would just be honest and say it was a joke and you have a boyfriend, but do it soon before he gets his hopes up.
2006-11-12 14:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was mean. youre playing with this poor guys heart. im sure after you tell this guy that youre with someone already, hes not going to like you. hes going to see what a heartless person you really are!
2006-11-12 14:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try honesty! And yes, at least to the other guy, it's cheating!
2006-11-12 14:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dating.......You're not married. It doesnt matter WHAT you tell WHO.
However, I DO hope it's taught you a strong lesson. NEVER play with anyone's emotions.
2006-11-12 14:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋