I'm a girl who cheated, who should I choose?

Question

Hi,
I met somebody a month and a half ago and things were really great. We spent all our time together and he introduced me to his parents and I introduced him to mine. I really thought I loved him.

Anyway, I met somebody else and just intended to be friends with him. But than I really started to like him, last night we kissed and I don't want to tell my boyfriend. My boyfriend knows we're friends and doesn't want us to be friends. I think my boyfriend loves me but...Why do I have strong feelings for somebody else?

I don't know what to do...I don't like hiding this and cheating.There is something this other guy has that I really like and really comforts me. Part of me wants to be with him and part of me wants to be with my boyfriend. My boyfriend is already suspicious.

I see a future with my boyfriend and he wants to make our relationship work. With the other guy, there is a bigger age difference. It is something just fun that feels good.
Please, I don't know what to do!

Answer 1

Be honest with both, and see what their reaction is...
And learn to have higher morals and standards.
If I was either of them, I wouldn't want you at all.

Answer 2

Stop being a "tramp!" Look , this ain't rocket science.You made a commitment to be faithful to your boyfriend...DO IT ! Girls are constantly talking about how guys are cheaters. Reread your question and tell me what you said. He wants a commitment ...you see a future ...but you are swapping spit with another guy. Come on ! Grow up and dust the other dude off of your feet , tell your man what you did and take whatever punishment you get.That's my advise but if you want my opinion , I think you will always be a slut unless you change your way of thinking. What were you doing alone with this guy for , in the first place and secondly , did you lie to your boyfriend about where you were when this happened. If so , then I change my opinion to a .....well , I'll be nice because as an "adult" , I know the difference between right & wrong.

Answer 3

Only you can choose...but stop the cheating...even a kiss is hurtful if your boyfriend should find out. How would you feel if you learned he kissed another woman and was strongly attracted to her?

Treat others as you want to be treated...it's that simple...if you wouldn't like him being with someone else, then you should not. By doing so, you have already ok'd it to be done to you...are you really okay with that?

Make a choice...it's unlikely the guys will be kewl with you dating both of them to make your decision. However, being unsure shows that you aren't 100% sure about your boyfriend, or you wouldn't have gotten close enough to another guy to now be torn as you are.

Think about what you know about each...you've been dating your b/f only about 6 wks, so you still don't know a whole lot...and this new guy you know less time than that...it may be that neither ends up being a good long term prospect.

You have to decide...but do it in a way where you can look yourself in the mirror and like who you see...not be ashamed of being someone you don't care for.

Answer 4

Well, it seems to me that you need to take some time to sort through everything and really think about what is best for you. I can't say who you can choose. That is up to you. Maybe you want to have fun and are not ready to commit to anyone. There is nothing wrong with that. But, if you really do like this other guy or want to be with him now, I think it might help to be honest with your boyfriend so he knows the truth. If he does love you he will be hurt, sure, but at least you will have that relief that you have been honest with him. I think that if you try to balance yourself among both the guys you will get tangled up in lies and feel worse in the end.

Answer 5

i really think that you should be contend with the boyfriend you have at the moment coz what you are feeling is something not strong enough to sugeest that you really need to move on, and you didnt mention that you are having problems with your current boyfriend which is great so stop listening to every silly feeling you develop on your friends or other people, it happens sometimes and you should be disciplined enough to ignore it otherwise you will be having some feelings for another guy even if you go out with this guy you are talking about and you will have endless brief relationships of which it is not a good thing.

Answer 6

If the guys a lot older than you (The guy your cheating with) he's probably just lookin' for s.e.x. Which one loves you more? Your boyfriend or this guy. What if you pick the guy your cheating with and he dumps you? Then your left with nothing. Your boyfriend won't take you back because your unfaithful.

Plus your going to have to tell your boyfriend. He's gonna find out some how. Better you than somebody else.

Answer 7

Well, you can always say that you guys should "take a break" from each other. In Seventeen Magazine [dec. 2006 issue] has something like this. You should propose that each of you see other people for a while and if things don't work with other people, you can always get back together. :]
if things are better with the other guy... well uh... you have to make the choice. x.x
maybe you should also tell him before the "break" that you had feelings for another guy and that you kissed him. if he really does care for you, he would understand and go with your wishes [i think. x.x].
Never really been in this kind of situation, but i tried. x.x good luck!

Answer 8

Boyfriend.

Answer 9

stop seeing the other guy right now and stay with your bf . If you break things off with your bf your going to end up getting hurt by this other guy . Anyways I wouldnt tell you bf about the kiss some things need not to be said in a relationship if you want it to work. good luck

Answer 10

girl, this is gonna be some deep avice. now, what you need to do is follow your heart. what do you like about him. is it this or that. what you need to do is tell your boyfriend and hopefully he should understand. if he does not, well, i guess that ends yuor relationship with him. then go tot eh other guy. you said that there was a big age difference. leave that person alone. you need to stick with someone your age and go ask your first boyfriend for forgiveness,OR I WILL DO IT FOR YOU!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Only you would know what to do.... You feel it in your heart... Problem is... if you don't decide soon, you'll just end up sad and alone. be careful karma is nothing you want to play with. One day you may truly meet THE ONE... then he will turn around and break your heart. Pick someone... or leave them both:)