wtf iz wrong with me :( I spent yrz wanting a siamese cat & now that i have one, It'z like i dont want it anymore :(.. I saved up alota' my allowance to get this cat, but now, I just don't know why I don't like her az much..
Why am I feeling this?
Plus, I thought of giving her back, the store I bought it from, doeznt give refundz, & they charge u 20$per day u take her before u give her back, n u can only "exchange" her with some other pet .
And, someone who worked at that pet store told me that yeah, i can exchange , but the one i have iz really rare here & they rarely get it in my country & that if i give it back & exchange , someone else will definitly buy her."Im not living anywhere near the U.S" just thought u should know!, Anwayz, & itz true, I did go through a hard time to find her..
So should I give it back & exchange ??? Or keep her, & get her pregnant by that same store with another siamese male & profit from it ??? U think it'z a good investment ??
Plzzz help me
2006-11-12 06:38:49 · 15 answers · asked by CupCake 3 in Pets ➔ Cats
To Huggywell, she'z a 4month old kitten, she NEVER playz around @ all, when I toss a ball next to her, she like starez at it then givez me this look that sayz " U kidding Me "!! .. she comez up to me sometimez & followz me around, but that'z it... most of the time she'z either sleeping or "tryin" to sleep! I had another cat along time ago & I LOVED HER TO DEATH. I kept her for 10 yrz before my idiot gardener left her out playin it the yard & i never saw her after that .. I do love catz soo much.. that'z not the issue , & im nice to this one, i feed her & take care of her & comb her hair & everything... but I don't see that bond i used to have with Tina :(
2006-11-12 07:09:49 · update #1
People!!! I AM A RESPONSIBLE PERSON!! WTF!! I used to own another cat for over ten yrz!!!!! I know the deal!! Trust me , I waz a cat ownder myself ! & I'm NOT a kid!! & even if i decide to keep her, I'll do whatever it takez to make her happy, I'll take good care of her & more! I'm not that kinda' person!! WTF!! Stop being soo harsh on me!!
2006-11-12 07:17:06 · update #2
You are having what is known as "Buyer's Remorse" It comes in many forms; the most common being making an impulse buy (throwing something in your cart at check out or buying something expensive you hadn't pallned on a whim) or anticipation/delivery failure (where the actual item does not lie up to your expectations)
You suffer from the latter but in a different way. Usually it's when you see something on TV that promises to do all this amazing stuff ("It slices! It dices! It can cut a tomato paper thin!") but when it arrives it's just knife. But for you, I'll bet YOU have been that commercial in your head creating all these amazing things you have daydreamed about happening once you got the cat. (None of which I assume included empting the litter box, feeding it or any of the work that goes with pet ownership.) So there is no way that poor cat could ever live up to the amazing cat you have dreamt up in your head. The easy solution is to forget your Dream Wonder Cat and get to know the real cat. I'll bet you'll find its pretty amazing too and you will grow to be best friends once you accept it for what it is and not what you hoped it would be. Next please have your cat fixed and do not breed it. There are already too many homeless animals in the world we don't need to add anymore
The last thing is the life lesson you can learn from this: (because if you don't learn it now it will keep happening until you do) and I know it is very hard in America where we are told to "buy this" and "get that" and that Paris Hilton keeps a little dog in her purse and if you want to be cool you need a dog in your purse TOO! But we are never told that nothing outside of ourselves will make us happy. That if we are unhappy it is usually because of something we have done wrong or something someone has done to us or a situation we are going through and no perfume, fashion item, new TV, car, drug or drink is going to make us forget it and be suddenly happy (welllll maybe for a minute but the feeling always comes back) What we need to do is see WHY we are unhappy and why we think someTHING is going to make us happy and address that problem. When we fix the hurt that has been done to us or a hurt we have done to someone else then we can be in the worst place in the world without a dime to our names and still be happy. Talk to someone; a teacher, your folks, your best friend, hey! your cat! Tell them all about it anything you may be upset about and pretty soon you will learn to love the cat you got and better yet love the you you got.
2006-11-12 07:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by derwood 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's normal to be partly disapointed when you finally get something that you've wanted for a long time. All those years, you've been building this image of this perfect cat in your mind, and when you finally got her, she probably didn't live up to all the expectations you had set in your mind. The anticipation of something is usually much better and more satisfying than the actual thing.
I wouldn't give her back, especially if she is rare. Every cat is special and has a lot of good qualities. Wait a few weeks for her to settle into her new home and for her real personality to come out. I'm sure if you concentrate on her good qualities you will find having a cat can be quite rewarding.
As for breeding her, sure, go ahead. Just make sure that have responsible people ready to take the kittens when the time comes because the last thing you need is as many as 5 or 6 kittens without a home!
Whatever you do, wait a few weeks before making your decision. When we moved, out cat hid under the blankets of my parents bed for a day before coming out. He was so scared! Changing environments can be very stressful. Just let her settle in!
2006-11-12 14:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If it is rare where you live can't you put an ad in the paper and sell her for what you paid. I think the cat deserves a better home than what you are willing to be. They need love just like any other living thing. A cat is different from a dog they are more independent than a dog. A Siamese is even more independent than most breeds. Once they bond with the owner they are some of the most loyal cats around. She need to be loved so find a home for her.
2006-11-12 14:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Nani 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never have gotten it in the first place. You're clearly young, your parents should have known better. Cats aren't toys or games you can just exchange for something better or different... they're living things that need someone they can depend on to take care of them and love them.
Definitely DO NOT breed her. If you can't even be responsible for her, or take the time to get to know her, and love her, than how on earth will you care for her while she's pregnant, let ALONE care for her while SHE is caring for 3-6 new kittens.. and then care for them? and by the time you're done, you won't have made much of a profit because you'll have to pay for vet exams for her, for all the kittens, shots, kitten food, and all sorts of extras.
Give her back, get over the money because maybe you'll learn a lesson from it.. Don't buy something that's alive if you aren't going to care for it FOREVER. Once you make a commitment, stick with it.
2006-11-12 15:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by enterthevault 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
my guess would be that you imagined having a cat being the greatest experience, or that you would get the perfect cat. when it didn't work out like you had expected, you felt like you wasted your money and got upset. i did that with my horse. when it didn't work out like i had wanted, i was so upset. eventually, i decided to keep him, and now i am SO glad i did. it's just that it took a lot of work to turn him into the horse i had imagined. and i had to let go of a lot of the dreams i had planned. you might have to do the same thing.
i would look into the possibility of breeding your cat. it may not be a huge profit though. but, there is a chance that your cat might have a kitten you want to keep that turns out to be the perfect cat. just a possibility. also, kittens are such much fun :-).
what i would do is stick with what you've got for another 2 months. don't bail on something too quickly. it may turn out to be really cool. if at the end of the two months you just want to get rid of her, do it. by then you'll know for sure if you want her or not.
good luck!
2006-11-12 15:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put yourself in the cat's shoes.
What do you think it would feel if after finding what it thought was a loving owner, it is then put up for adoption?
A pet is for life.
I took two kittens in, simply because I think they would have been drowned had I not. They now have the life of Riley. Sure, they annoy me when they scratch the furniture, wake me at 0200 for a little "chat" and other things they do, but if they left tomorrow I would miss them terribly.
You need to spend time with your feline, play with it and get it to love you back.
If you can't do that then you should never have been allowed to buy it in the first instance.
2006-11-12 14:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by steven b 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cats have different personalities like people, so just because you like one cat doesn't necessarily mean you'll like all cats. You don't like every person do you? We had a cat for 15 years that people outside of the family didn't necessarily like (he snubbed most of them), but we loved him a lot. We got another cat when he was 14 years old, and that cat wasn't anything like the first cat. He doesn't snuggle or cuddle. Our kids love him, but my spouse can't stand him. Then, when our older cat died my spouse didn't want another cat. I think it was fear of getting another non-snuggler. A feral kitten found us, and you guessed it...he's a snuggler. So, we have a cat for the kids, and a cat for us. If you're going to return your cat, do it sooner rather than later, so it has a chance to bond with a new owner while its young.
2006-11-12 19:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by limemountain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
adults dont get allowance so you are a kid
anyhow.. ok take her back and either pick another or simply dont get one at all..
the pet store person was full of crap if this isnt a registered cat there is NOTHING special about it.. its color might be different or unusual but its simply a domestic cat unless its registered.. and even at that pet stores NEVER sell quality animals.. they sell "pet quality" animals which are NOT the same as "show quality" or even "breeding quality" they are just giving you grief... it the cat was so "rare" she wouldnt have been at a store in the first place....
getting her pregant for profit is WRONG - exploiting pets for profit is wrong.. and considering millions of kittens are euthanized every year.. having more of them is wrong... the only cats who should be breeding are purebreds who have been to shows to prove they are top examples of the breed WORTHY of passing on their genetics...
2006-11-12 15:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
little kittens are like that sometimes cause u don't spend much time with them when my cat is finally playful is at the middle of the night or at 6:00 AM then i play as if i where a cat lol he gets on a chair i look at him then he attacks me and he lets his little step bother a street cat rest from playing with him they both live in my house but sometimes they eat to much just give her a little not much and go to sleep with her then she will grow confident with u i thought my cat hated me cause he did not case me nor anything i was gone for 2 weeks he missed me like crazy he put his paws on my shoulders
and rubed his face against my face cats need to grow confidence in you
2006-11-12 15:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
with a Siamese cat they are either good.. or bad.. no middle ground. truly!!!!! if a animal does not work out your not doing it a favor to keep it. let it try another home. there is no need torturing it or yourself to make a square peg fit in a round hole. but do not take the animal`s chance away from him by keep him till his kitten stage has gone. he may go to another home and fit in like a glove.
2006-11-12 14:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by mouse c 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋