My husband is on a business trip this week and we just found out his sister and neice will be arriving next Monday (He gets back this Friday). We knew they were coming out for Thanksgiving but we thought they'd be arriving on Wed. My house has been volunteered for the cooking of Thanksgiving dinner so sister and mom-in-law will be over. That's not really a problem, but this is our first Thanksgiving together as husband and wife. There are certain traditions on Thanksgiving I would like to carry over to our new family just as my hubby has his. How do I politely insist on certain things without stepping on toes? For instance I really love making pumpkin cheesecake instead of pumpkin pie. My hubby's fam insists on the traditional pumpkin pie. Would it be frowned upon to make the cheesecake in advance anyway when they have every intention of baking a pumpkin pie and I know it? Sister won't be leaving until Sunday. Hubby and I would like to put the x-mas tree up the Sat after.
2006-11-12 06:35:56 · 14 answers · asked by bubb1e_gir1 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Could we still do this even tho she'll be staying at our house? I wouldn't mind at all if she wanted to help, but would that be rude? It is our house and I love the family-in-law to death, but they have their ways and I'm accustomed to mine. I'm fully willing to compromise here as I know my traditions and my husbands have to blend. But as this is our first thanksgiving as a married couple, I can't help but feeling overwhelmed at the task of attempting this blending when all the other people in the house are from his family. (We chose to do Christmas with my family and Thanksgiving with his since that's when sis could travel and hubby and I have no kids - both fams are good with this)
2006-11-12 06:38:34 · update #1
take it as a learning experience talk to your sis in law let her make there pumpkin pie and you make your cheese cake if theres left over hey theres plenty of visitors to help eat it up .........that's OK no one has to stop there traditions that's the best thing in the world when family's meet just add some of your own traditions and next year it becomes normal to every one a little of the new mixed with the old .............good luck
2006-11-12 06:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make both pumpkin cheesecake and pumpkin pie. There is no reason they cant have their traditional holiday and your cheesecake to spice things up. Make sure you tactfully let them know your boundaries. If you let them run the show the first time, they will expect to do it every time. Good Luck!
2006-11-12 07:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Crabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could make a cheesecake AND have the traditional pumpkin pie there too. Be polite and say to his family, "I made a pumpkin cheesecake for anybody who would like to try it. I do it every year, I hope you don't mind if I did it this year." They should welcome it and tell you that it's fine, maybe they'll even try the cheesecake too. :)
2006-11-12 06:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bake both, don't get into an arguement over anything, Put up the tree on schedule. Next year set the day that company can come over so that there ar no surprises. By the way this is a minefield and one wrong step can ruin your holiday. Be Very very careful
2006-11-12 06:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform , Remind everyone that this is your first Thanksgiving has man and wife and the two of you wish to incorporate your own traditions, they should respect that, if they don't you are in for a long standing feud around holiday time every year
2006-11-12 06:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by CareBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do both the cheesecake and the pumpkin pie if they don't like it to bad, your house your rules. compromise with some of their things but don't let them take over
2006-11-12 06:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm not as polite as u, but i would make both and tell them why, as for the Christmas tree put it up together (you & hubby) its your first Christmas start as u mean to go on .
2006-11-12 06:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by LMH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make them both, that way everyone has what they like. You can never have too much food at Thanksgiving.
2006-11-12 07:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house your rules, but to keep the peace let them have their pumpkin pie and you can have yours, leftovers are great. so go ahead and do you thing
2006-11-12 06:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their family. Grin and bare it, and look at the bright side, you got extra help now for the holidays.
2006-11-12 06:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋