i love him to death but im really not attracted to him. i dont get any pleasure out of sex and i really hate doing things with him. what should i do???
2006-11-12 06:24:49 · 31 answers · asked by cocobaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let him know that you're losing attraction and you really want him to do something about it.
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The most important thing is you let him know that your interest is slipping and because you love him to death you want him to do something about it, he'll thank you for it later
2006-11-12 06:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to ask your self, what is keeping you in the relationship, if he is not attracting you and you do not get pleasure out of the sex. I can not see from you question why you are there
2006-11-12 14:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should probably let him know. It does sound kinda harsh but its the truth. There is no way you can truly love someone and not find them attractive or get pleasure out of sex.
2006-11-12 14:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Hal Jordan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder where the love came from without any attraction at all in the first place. By saying that there is no pleasure out of sex with him and you hate doing things with him, you are really contradicting yourself as thats what you should be cherishing when it comes to someone you love,isn't it? Going seperate ways will stop bigger heartbreaks!!
2006-11-12 14:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wasn't attracted to my boyfriend and I loved him too...but seriously honey, find a guy that you will want to be with for the rest of your life. Pick one that'll make your sex, social and love life full-filled. You'll be alot happier, believe me. Try to stay friends with him, but find someone else. You are already thinking about it, so your mind is set. Go for it!
2006-11-12 14:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste any more of yours or his time. You have to go if you dont you will eventually leave or end up cheating and wasting all this time. Of all the things you can change attraction isnt one of them and something will always be missing.
2006-11-12 14:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by baby squirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get away now dont be w/ him if you dont like him dont keep leading him on you look like a very attractive female find someone that you really can care about you should have no problem w/ that
2006-11-12 14:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by mschmitty920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are better off being friends like me. trust me i was almost in the same situation a week ago and had a hard time deciding what to do till i figured out i need a break
2006-11-14 16:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by no longer caligirl. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, you will eventually break up. It's cruel to keep the other person hanging on when there is no future together. The sooner you each have freedom the sooner you can remake your lives.
2006-11-12 14:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by greenwillowtrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I hope you're old enough to be having sex. Second of all if you truly are looking for a healthy relationship then sex has to be a healthy part of it.
2006-11-12 14:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋