The situation is:
I have been staying the night pretty consistently for about two months now but I do rent a house of which my roommate has been staying by himself. Yes, I do have a male roommate but he is a hairy software engineer who walks around with his shirt off and grosses me out. (won't even sit on his couch! ). Anyhow, my boyfriend needs a roommate because he needs help with his mortgage. I am moving into a different place on Dec. 1st and will have two male roommates - one of which is gay and never home and the other has been with his girl for 4 years and works, goes to the gym and goes to his girls condo a lot of the time. My boyfriend's friend knows two girls that are losing their place and he gave my boyfriend their number to call. My boyfriend just turned 29 and I am 24 (as are the two girls he wants to move in). Pretty much it's that I'm moving out so that two young attractive girls can move in with him. He knows it bothers me but thinks I'm irrational about it.
2006-11-12 06:13:21 · 12 answers · asked by tracimelbfl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't feel ok with it if i were you too .but I think it depends on how much you trust him, as he trusts you to have 2 male roomates...well I think you have the right to be worried but ur situation is just the same and yet you just love him.So think positive.
2006-11-12 06:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to REALLY trust someone to be ok with it, but at the same time you have to because you will be doing the same. Although, I do think its different even though i hate to have to succumb to the double-standard type of thing, but there is more chance of you not messing up, than he is. First off, hes a man, not that men cant control themselves, because they can, but will he? is the question. The temptation is going to be there if the girls are attractive and if they like him and try something. It can happen easily. Plus you as a woman, you dont have Testostorone to mess with you, so I dont know, its a hard situation, I think he might mess up.
PS you should move in with the two girls and he should move with the two men, and your problem would be solved
2006-11-12 14:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are both morons. Let me guess...it's a little twisted game that you two play to see which one of you will end up taking the strongest medications later in life. The rules of the game are anyone that ends up in prison or a mental hospital is automatically disqualified. The use of massive quantities of alcohol and preferably the use of illegal drugs are recommended.No holes bared and anything and everything goes when it comes to increasing the psychosis in ones opponent. This game was originally meant for Jr. High School but has been modified to the inadvisable (manufacturers) levels of mid to late 20's age bracket. The easiest way to win is if your opponent commits suicide. Not only will you win this round of "I'm A Freakin' Idiot", but the sympathy you receive as well as the cash gifts will allow you a weekend away in search of your next victim....opponent. In round two called,"Being a Loser is a Good Way to Win".........Why not just move in together and protect the rest of society from you two deviants.
2006-11-12 14:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Attaboyslim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have a double standard and be upset...if you don't want him living with women, then you shouldn't live with men. Can he not find any male roommates? Could you not find any female roommates? Could neither of you find a place you could afford to live without roommates?
Trust is a HUGE part of any relationship...if there is none, not only with the relationship tend to be miserable, but also fairly short lived.
If you trust him, there should be no issue. If you do not trust him, then why are you dating him in the first place?
2006-11-12 14:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely ok to have your reservations about it. You can't help but being nervous about the situation: unfortunately, men are usually weaker in these circumstances than women are. That's not to falsly accuse your boyfriend in any way, its just another difference between men and women. It's natual to be nervous, but for his sake and yours, try to excercise a little trust here. If you trust him, and he knows that you trust him, he will be faithful to you. Hopefully he hasn't done anything up to this point to merit your distrust, so it should be ok. But be careful. You may want to pay close attention if his personality starts to change later.
2006-11-12 14:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Rizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent being irrational. When a girl knows that a guy has someone that is more reason to try and convince him to cheat on you. This isnt three's company anymore its more like three's a crowd.
2006-11-12 14:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to follow your story, but sounds like your boyfriend will be with two girls, and you will be with two guys. Well, no matter how 'well behaved' you all are, guess who will start screwing with whom. Besides all the tention it will create. so do what you think is right. Sounds like lots of sex in the offing for the various people. good luck.
2006-11-12 14:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by dmustaine1000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could personally share living accomodations with anyone and only have eyes and feelings for my girlfriend. Do you trust your boyfriend to feel the same way about you?
2006-11-12 14:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since most men think with their penis of course it makes perfect sense to him. He gets to "see" you whenever he wants plus he gets to play Hugh Hefner for a little fantasy playboy mansion. Just beware if he wears the velour jacket.
2006-11-12 14:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Peloubet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure hope you trust him. I it were me at that age with two attractive girls it would be "hard" not to resist them if the occasion aroused.
2006-11-12 14:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by ><>JHF<>< 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋