she's really down right now.. boy problems.. im trying to comfort her the best i can and to think that i have boy problems on my own too.. what bothers me is that she's turning to cigs for comfort. she's starting to be like this chain smoker and it scares me..
what should i do??
2006-11-12 06:04:38 · 10 answers · asked by lostandconfused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my parents are here.. she has a lot of issues with parents already. she might become a rebel or something.. i just tried talking to her. she said that i dont listen to her that's why she turns to cigs. i tried telling her that nothing will happen if she smokes, well.. to her problem atleast but her health? she should know better i mean she's old enough. she's 22 and im 19. to be honest, i smoke cigs too. but i try to cut it down. i used to smoke cigs everyday, 10 sticks max but now i smoke like 5 the most a week. i mean if i can do it, why cant she????
2006-11-12 06:16:53 · update #1
You should probably talk to your family members and friends about this problem. If they know, they can help you out and think of solutions. I'm pretty sure that your trying your best to comfort her, maybe you can try to talk to her about getting lung problems. You should also give her the picture that boys aren't that important. Getting mad over that is wrong.
2006-11-12 07:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smoking more is a way of coping with problems temprarily. As a smoker myself I have been through some tough times and have increased and deceased the amout i've smoked. We can not predict the future. This might be the time when she stays at a high level of consumption. Tell her you are concerned but do it in an easy settling way. Its a hell of alot better than turning to drugs or alcohol. I hope your friend gets over her problems. Ten years from now when you are both still smoking, you will glad you had one another as friends.
2006-11-13 17:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by marlboro_100s_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only try to talk and comfort her and hope that she'll listen. The smoking is only another problem being addded to the problem. You don't solve a problem by adding another, you must let her no that. If they should work their problem out, she's now become a smoker. Boyfriends come and go but addiction last a life time!!!!!!
2006-11-12 14:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by James B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you are both teenagers. Remember, she is watching you as an example. Smoking is horrible,but being young and having no true clue of what, or where does love come from. Is dangerous, take a deep look at what you deserve and what it is you are settling for. If there is a big difference, reevaluate your options and make the necessary changes. YOU are worth beyond this world!
2006-11-12 14:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by jrneytime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for her and try to discourage her from not smoking as much...sometimes stress brings out the excess if you already have the habit. Try to get her involved in other things keep her busy...
2006-11-12 14:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents before she gets really hooked and then worry about the boy problems later. Her health is more important.
2006-11-12 14:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? Tell her boys come and go, but hopefully she'll always have her health (at least her lungs) if she does not take up smoking. It's a bad, nasty habit.
2006-11-12 14:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there isnt much you can do its her life sweetie. I would just let her know how you feel thats all you can do. I tried my best to get my fiancee to stop smoking before are son came that didnt work he still smokes and I went back to.
2006-11-12 14:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has to do this on her own, just be there when she needs you
2006-11-12 15:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents about it...
2006-11-12 14:43:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋