i am fallling out of love with my boyfriend.
i have been with him nearly 3 years
he loves me dearly but i know dont feel the same anymore.
i dont want to hurt him because he has helped me so much homelessness and redundancy ect.
the realationship just doesnt seem to move on in anyway. he wont move in coz i cant find full time work.
he wont get engaged.
he seems happy how it is. we do the same things all the time and im getting so bored.
i have spoke to him and it improves for a week and then it goes back to being the same.
its our aniversary in january after christmas and we met on christmas eve.
what should i do? and how would i break up with him?
2006-11-12 06:02:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is so sweet.
he is always nice to me.
he is also like my best friend
i could never cheat on him because of this.
2006-11-12 06:19:58 · update #1
If the love has gone the the decent thing to do is to end it as gently as possible. Be honest - lying will hurt more in the long run. Honesty will allow you both to move on to better relationships having learned about yourselves in this one. It sounds like he is scared to move on with you - there is a chance he may even be secretly relieved if you end it. Good luck.
2006-11-12 06:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bymble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end it now. Your unhappy and he is happy, at least end it while he is happy. There is nothing worse than ending it full of arguments and hatred. You seem to respect him still too. There is nothing you can do about falling out of love with him, just break it to him softly, and before he buy you a Christmas present!
For the record, he seems scared of commitment.
2006-11-12 14:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by LeeJay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it doesnt matter what he did to help you he wanted to do that at the time as relationships are about helping each other
im sure he must be seeing signs your not happy but there again why isnt he commited to you i know unemployment isnt yr fault but maybe hes as fed up with you as he has to pay for you on nights out all the time
you are probably bringing him down so it might be best to let him go
2006-11-12 14:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by cazmo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems clear that it is over for you. If you cannot tell you are leaving him because of your feelings for him why try a trial separation.
2006-11-13 05:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. It's obvious that you're very unhappy, and need to end the relationship; do it now!
2006-11-12 14:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Follow your heart... women intuition is usually right. I wish you all the best...
2006-11-12 14:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lanie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start ingoring him and say it's over.
2006-11-12 14:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by mistery person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to tell him.its fair to him and more importantly its fair to you xx good luck x
2006-11-12 14:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by kdjcfc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋