ive been with my girl for almost 2 years and we hardly if at all ever have sex, its starting to make me feel ugly, depressed and not feel good at all about it, its really bothering me to the point i dont know how i should feel and how i am supposed to let her know without offending her or making her feel bad about it, cause if i make her feel bad about it she wont want to have sex at all, she says time and time again how she wants to and never follows through its really starting to bug me, she get me going and expecting it and then nothing, even last night i made a romantic night, flowers candles rose petals all over bed and she came in said awwww, took the rose petals off the bed and got in and gave me a kiss and just turned on the tv. i was very disappointed and i dont know what to do or how im supposed to make this work, it is really bothering me, please give me some feed back on how you would feel and what you would say or do. thank you :)
2006-11-12 06:01:53 · 11 answers · asked by Luigi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pyschologically it is not, not having sex that is making u sad but the fact that ur girlfriend doesnt want to therefore causing an awkwardness in the relationship
just be flat out with her, say i love u and i want to with u. do u really think she's the one? cause if u tell her and her reaction sucks than move on
2006-11-12 06:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by dramateen23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sex life was very active and it just started slacking off, then it is just a normal occurrence in the relationship department. The level of comfortability is at the point where there seems to be no more need of verifiability. When this happens the only amends is to discuss the situation and come to terms of compromise. Do not get pushy or resort to accusations. Maybe you could even suggest things that would change up or even spice up the bedroom activities.
While sex should not be the be all and end all of any relationship, it is and can be an important factor in assuring the strength and commitment of partners. When it slacks off, it can bring resentment and lead to thoughts of infidelity. Whether infidelity is a fact or not, it is something that needs resolving and the best way of doing this is communicating your feelings. Be prepared for the reality of what each other may bring to the table and be willing to work through it. Empty words and promises will only lead to more destructive thinking and further resentment, which in turn will always lead to infidelity. Be contributive to the healing of this factor, be understanding of each others feelings, and be committed to the curative process.
I think what you did was a very dramatic and romantic gesture, she may feel that the romance is fading and you need to rekindle that part of your relationship and not just for the gratification of sex. More for the gratification of a successful relationship.
2006-11-12 06:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry hunny. Look being a female myself. I myself enjoy sex, but not every day twice a day. I've had my days where my partner has told me no. Your position doesn't sound healty. You(heres the answer you expected to get...kinda) need to talk to her. Start the conversation off with asking if shes having any female problems(you've been together for a long time...your ALLOWED to get personal). If thats a no, continue with so your not attracted to me?(It may hurt if the answer is yes, but you need to know dude, cuz not only chicks let themselfs go) If thats a no, continue with is our sex bad, do I get you off or do you fake it?(if thats the case you need to work harder). If she swears thats not the case you need to be blunt and just come right out and ask "Then whats wrong, why do we not have sex.?" You already know its not a lack on your part. If you need to arguee, do so. If you have to offend, then you have to offend.
2006-11-12 06:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by kellythemayor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, no guy keeps to be w/out intercourse. He stopped smoking & started work out can b a reason 2 take long, yet whilst he's having intercourse in many circumstances that would clarify all of it. with regard to the size he could desire to have stretched it by making use of putting weights on his penis or i'm sorry if this hurts u, mayb he's getting in many circumstances blowned, that'll stretch it out & make it greater, that's a actuality. Or yet another rationalization is surgical operation. verify it out whilst it is not undemanding, if it keeps to be the traditional not undemanding that u keep in mind then he has been sexually energetic, if it starts off tilting 2 the area it is surgical operation. I wish u success. do not take something from a guy. Ther's 2 many ailments obtainable & u r youthful. Get yet another guy. GL!
2016-10-17 04:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for me from personal experience, if there is no sex in a relationship then that relationship isn't going anywhere. For me, sex is taking the relationship to the next step and showing how much you care for each other. I am, if she really loves you then why is she not willing to take that step. The best advice i can give you is talk to her about and where the relationsip is going.
2006-11-12 06:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Shady_Gangsta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question you have to ask yourself is: is this relationship working for you? To me it sounds as though it's not. You need to find someone who makes you happy. If you are feeling bad about yourself, ugly, and depressed this is not a relationship you need to be in. Just don't break up with her until you tell her all of this. You need to tell here exactly what you have just told us. See what she says. If she isn't willing to give a little more that you need to move on. I'm not saying this to be mean, you need to be in a relationship that makes you happy, it's as simple as that. Just think how deprssed if you were to spend the rest of your life with this person.
2006-11-12 06:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Max B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be having problems with her sex drive. Is she taking any kind of medications? If so she might want to go see her doctor and talk to him/her about it. The best policy is honesty, tell her how you're feeling and if she truly loves you she will try to find a cure.
2006-11-12 06:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never good to depend on your woman for sex. It's unattractive and very needy. Just try to stop thinking about sex and move on with your life. I would.
2006-11-12 06:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frustrated.
2006-11-12 06:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be clam and have a heart to heart with her. ask her what's bothering her so much that she won't have sex with you. and let her know how much this is hurting you
2006-11-12 06:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by j y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋