everything was going great I'm supposed to move with him to another state next year. And now i find out he was playing these games with someone on-line that he knows. like sexy talk and making plans to hook up. he swears he never hooked up. but in all the conversations he is the one starting things and when he had told me about her many months ago he had told me it was her who was making a nusiance of her self and he didn't know what to do because she is considered family. like a cousin but all the emails that he sent her was after tha dates that he had talked to me about her. he says he messed up and that he never slept with her and that its been months, more like two only, since he has comunicated with her. i'm so hurt i don't know if i should kick him out or talk to see if we can work this out. we have been dating for alittle over a year now. And i love him very much. but i already trusted another man before with a situation like this except he had slept with the girl
2006-11-12 06:01:30 · 7 answers · asked by quiet_butnot_unheard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust lost, can never be regained!
2006-11-12 06:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everyone is different; it doesnt mean he will do the same, but it is soooo easy to get excited over someone that you email or chat with often, specialy if they are already talking to eachother the way they do. He is obviously lying about the fact that she is a nusiance to him, he likes talking to her. If he didnt like it, he wouldnt continue to talk to her or play around with her like that. This situation could so easily lead to something more (lets say it already hasnt happened). Just the fact that he carries on that way with her will affect the way his relationship is with you. Even if he doesnt see her, having a relationship online or on the phone, one can start having feelings or lust for someone. In this case you need to really trust your gut feeling, and your woman's intuition. We can always feel when our man is doing something wrong.
2006-11-12 06:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd forget about living with him just yet, he's told you lies & half truths how can you seriously move out of state where there will be no friends or family near.
Whether he did or didn't sleep with this "cousin" is not the only issue you have, you also have to consider the lies he told & the fact he started these conversations.
I also doubt she's a cousin I think thats just another of his lies.
Dump him and move on.
You deserve so much better
2006-11-12 06:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd arrange to live separately after you move, no matter what, and tell him he's on probation. You love him, but you gotta look out for yourself, and living together is a kind of commitment. No sense committing if you can't trust him, and he has to earn your trust.
2006-11-12 06:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by zilmag 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not I repeat do not move anywhere with this guy! Even if he didn't sleep with her, the conduct isn't acceptable. If he loves you he would of cut off the communication along time ago instead of lying then changing his story! You deserve better! Demand it!
2006-11-12 06:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... you should probably talk to him before this relationship spirals out of control.
2006-11-12 06:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Wedding Crasher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is built on trust, and if you don't have it, then you have nothing.
2006-11-12 06:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by James B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋