I'm realy in love with my husband and we are very happy together but I'm already 34 and he's 42. Talking doesn't resolve this situation. I understand that he has reasons from his childhood, but I still want a baby so badly.
2006-11-12 05:40:42 · 10 answers · asked by tijenia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I will give u my story. My husband didn't want children, because we couldn't afford it, but seriously, who can? Anyway, he knew I had went off the pill, but we were still using a back-up method. A couple of months later, their was a baby on the way. So when I found out, I was so nervous to tell him. So I went to his work, where my dad also worked, and I got them together, and told them. The reaction was totally unexpected! My hubby and dad both were grinning ear from ear!! So don't let him fool u, deep down inside, every man wants a child of his own. Just give him a little more time./
2006-11-12 13:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by poohbie_red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to talk him into it, you're just setting yourself up to dealing with a baby all by yourself while your husband goes off and does his own thing like nothing happened. You can't force someone into parenthood, that surely doesn't make a good parent. If having children is that important to you, maybe it's time to reevaluate your marriage and decide if you can live the rest of your life without them or not.
2006-11-12 05:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by granolagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have talked about this before marriage, not after you commented your life to him. If he is against a child because of problems in his childhood maybe concealing would help him to understand why it is so important for you to have a child and to help him get over his rejection to having a baby...
2006-11-12 05:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is either divorce him or do without a baby. at 42 he is pretty set in his beliefs and you wouldnt want to bring a baby into it if he really doesnt want one, it would be too big of shock to him. I mean, he has been "free" for this long so, that would tie him down too much and be too big of shock and then add that to him not wanting one. so, either you give up the thought of having one or give up him before it gets too late.
2006-11-12 05:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you not know this about him before you got married? There is nothing you can do if you want to have a baby with him. You can't force someone to be a father, and if he is against it that much, you will just cause problems between to two of you.
2006-11-12 05:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're old enough to have thought of sorting this very important question out before you married.hes not likely to change his mind now 34 is getting kind of late you mite hav to make your mind up,if its him or a baby.if you choose him,will you reget it 4 the rest of your life.dont have a baby without his consent,it will probably ruin your great love,maybe councilling would help
2006-11-12 10:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT get pregant until he is ready or he will resent you and the kid.. the world is plenty overpopulated as it is and if he has issues then its definatly not worth it... 2 years from now he might change his mind but not if you keep hounding him about it.. perhaps councelling.. but lay off for a while = you still have lots of years.. and if he is concerned becuase he was abused then DO NOT have a kid - there is a high chance he will abuse his kid too....
2006-11-12 07:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly these are things that should have been talked about before the wedding. Everyone has their expectations, and their beliefs/disbeliefs. I'm really sorry. If it's a must, tell him... and be firm about it. Tell him you cannot go through life with no children. Maybe he would consider adoption? Is he against children or pregnancy? Or both... Good luck.
2006-11-12 05:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Danielle 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your husband knows he will not be a good father, then he has made the right decision and you should respect that. Surely you knew this when you married him. Trying to change his mind now is unfair.
2006-11-12 05:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you get pregnant an he dont want it it may cause major trust issues and he will may be bitter and resentful. If you want your hubby its probablt best not to get pregnant unless he wants one too.
2006-11-12 05:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋