try again,would you if you thought that he changed and grew up??
2006-11-12 05:20:15 · 16 answers · asked by angelkay581 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm inclined to say yes... though I would take some time in doing so...
Because people do change... you should probably try to give him a chance... though I'd try to do it on a "friend" basis to start with... see if...while being his friend... you start to fall back in love with him... see if he really has changed... see as a friend... you can be a bit more objective about him... if he really has changed... give it a whack...
You also want to think of the child... don't get his/her hopes up (thinking Mommy and Daddy are getting together)... if you get his hopes up... then it doesn't work out... you don't want him/her to be devasted by a failed attempt...
"the man who moves mountains.... first begins by moving small stones"
2006-11-12 05:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can be the judge of that. How do you feel about it? Do you believe that he has matured enough to handle something like this now? Are you willing to deal with the emotional turmoil of what happened in the past, to possibly happen again? How will it affect your child? Are you willing to take that risk, knowing that you decide for the betterment of two, you and your child?
2006-11-12 13:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I honestly wouldn't. It shouldn't have taken him 12 years to grow up. It's not likely that he has changed that much. While he was living the single care free lifestyle you were being a mommy. A responsible mommy. He doesn't deserve a second chance. He made his bed... let him lie in it. Have a wonderful day!
2006-11-12 13:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I thought that it could work, I'd prolly give it a try. I'd be very careful though when it comes to the child. You don't want to bring the father back into the picture only to have your child lose him again. Just be careful.
2006-11-12 13:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him after 12 years I say go for it. Hope that he has changed and whatever reasons you couldn't make it work the first time are no longer issues.
2006-11-12 13:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by ginyamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very slow and very cautious. I would wonder about how I had changed and grown over the years. But yes, I might give it a try to test how it really felt.
2006-11-12 13:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure ... why not? You've grown up, too. At least in this situation, you have some idea of what the challenges of your relationship are likely to be, and can plan on how you'll handle them better than before. Goodluck.
2006-11-12 13:21:57 · answer #7 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya but you dont want the child to think you got back together because if you break up the child will be very upset.
Good Luck
Cali
2006-11-12 13:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by cali13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a date or two first. Take it one step at a time, you'll know if he's changed or not before you commit to a serious relationship.
2006-11-12 13:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things can change a lot in 12 years .......I would if the person never hit me or disrespected me and if i still have some type of love for them .......you never know till you try ..........good luck
2006-11-12 13:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋