We have been together for 10 years, and have lived together for 7. In all those years, he has only met my parents twice. We only live 2 hours away from them. He has never met any of my other family members (sisters, grandparents). He says it is too stressful for him. The 2 times he did meet my parents, he was a wreck afterwards (even though the meeting was pleasant). My parents really like him, and wish he would visit more often. What's wrong with him?
2006-11-12 05:19:06 · 10 answers · asked by The Pulverizer 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
In college, he took about 7 different antidepressants, but none of them helped. He has given up on doctors.
2006-11-12 05:37:12 · update #1
He doesn't socialize with anyone.
2006-11-12 06:21:39 · update #2
Is he this way even meeting other people? Some people have a phobia of socializing. They don't know how to act around people and it stresses them out so much that they would rather avoid it.
2006-11-12 05:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jaylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the AD's didn't help, then depression probably wasn't the underlying problem. What you describe sounds like anxiety on overload. If that's the only situation he experiences it, tell him to grow up and deal with it (okay, that's harsh, but that situation also sounds like an excuse of sorts).
More likely, he experiences the same in other situations as well. If so, try to get him back into a psychiatrist and at least give a full history. See what the pdoc says this time. There's nothing about doing so that would make him have to do anything about it and you can emphasize as much. Keep in mind that you can try to get him in the door, but you can't make him do something he doesn't want to do, and you can't make him be different than who he is.
Btw, "crazy" is hugely derogatory for anyone with mental illness. Suggest you change your attitude on it cuz you may be living with someone who does have a form of mental illness. Insulting him about it isn't gonna do either of you any good.
2006-11-12 14:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have a social disorder like Asperger Syndrome which means he finds social situations like small talk difficult. He might feel especially insecure if he feels that you aren't very supportive to him in front of your parents. He may also have other challenges he is taking on in his work/ social life and visiting your parents is a challenge he doesn't want to take on.
I find it hard when i go to visit my girlfriend's parents, my girlfriends younger Sister is very extrovert and i feel like I've got to compete with her sometimes.
I hope you work something out with him.
Good Luck!
2006-11-12 13:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Leftfield fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can take years to find the right drugs &/or doctor. Wish him well for me. Ask him why he thinks he was such a wreck. What does he think makes it stressful, what is he afraid of, what was he feeling after meeting your mom & dad? See if you & he can find someone to reccomend a good counselor for him to talk to & encourage him to stick with it until he bonds and can talk openly about his fears. He's not crazy - just troubled.
2006-11-12 15:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by broomhilda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you guys ever gonna get married? If he wants to marry you then he needs to figure out a way to get over this issue. Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Maybe he should see a therapist or someone who may be able to help him.
2006-11-12 13:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by whitney b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your parents reminds him of his parents.
Do you know if he has issues with his parents?
It's probably due to a lot of lack of self-confidence.
He must think that it's possible that your parents won't like him and that they would convince you to break up with him or something like this.
2006-11-12 15:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I dont know your parents or your boyfriend, but I think your boyfriend should meet all of your family because you have been together so long! He sounds afraid....he should face his fears!! I bet your parents arn't scary.
2006-11-12 13:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Gina G 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He probably has some problem but can't put his finger on it. You should talk to him.
2006-11-12 13:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is just too too nervous!
2006-11-12 13:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Bob the Cat.™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have an anxiety disorder.......or he may have panic attacks about certain situations...so you might ask him to ask his doctor about it.
2006-11-12 13:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by kndykisz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋