Is it a sin to cuddle in bed with my bf and just kiss and make out, but we completely understood and respect each other and not have sex? Even when cuddling in bed I do set restrictions that he cannot touch me in certain places or certain ways that contribute to sexual desires.
If it is a sin to cuddle in bed but without sex, please state the bible verse it came from.
2006-11-12 05:07:11 · 14 answers · asked by Miss_Perfect 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Heb 13:4 associates the "bed" with marriage. Anything sensual belongs in the marriage bed. Romance is different than being sensual both are for marriage but only romance is good outside of it. The lusts of the flesh include the sensual things outside of marriage as far as physical things go. If you proceed with your questionable actions you will surely fall into sin if you have not already. Flee sexual immorality (1 Cor 6:17) is what Paul said, don't play with fire you will get burned. People who cross the line in a relationship are really showing disrespect towards each other especially the guy since he is potentially the spiritual leader. If both of you are Christians, I would advise you to both pray together to have the fear of God and to conduct yourselves in a holy manner every time you are together. There is a time to love and a time to embrace (from Ecclesiastes 3) but doing both naked is not that time until marriage just as Adam and Eve were naked as husband and wife without shame.
2006-11-12 05:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ernesto 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well start 1 cor 7:36 But if anyone thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virginity, if that is past the bloom of youth, and this is the way it should take place, let him do what he wants; he does not sin. Let them marry
1 thes 4:4 that each one of YOU should know how to get possession of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in covetous sexual appetite such as also those nations have which do not know God; 6 that no one go to the point of harming and encroach upon the rights of his brother in this matter, because Jehovah is one who exacts punishment for all these things, just as we told YOU beforehand and also gave YOU a thorough witness. 7 For God called us, not with allowance for uncleanness, but in connection with sanctification. 8 So, then, the man that shows disregard is disregarding, not man, but God, who puts his holy spirit in YOU.
The Bible teaches that sexual intimacies should be enjoyed only within the framework of marriage. (Hebrews 13:4)
Heb --- Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.
Eph 5:22 Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord,
and so on,,,, Hopefull you get the point of what God requires of you. Now the choice is up to you. Yes, it is your responsibility.
2006-11-12 05:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by fire 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lust is a sin, even if only in thought.
Can either of you 'kiss and make out' in bed, without sexual thoughts? If not, then it IS a sin.
2006-11-12 05:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Born Again Christian 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you?
If you are a minor, ask your parents. If you have their permission, then it's ok. "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right."
If you are an adult, it sounds perfectly fine to me, and any verse I can think of.
I would be careful that you don't play with fire and get burned, though. Cuddling is not sin.
2006-11-12 05:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'll bet you're gonna' get some serious responses to this question!
A thought in Judaism is...the fence around the Law. We know what our limits are, & what is considered wrong by G-d. So, we set a fence around that Law, to help us know we're approaching the limit & need to turn back.
Sex outside marriage is considered by by us. So, we refrain from being alone with members of the opposite sex (fence around the Law) to help us abstain from sex outside marriage. (Truth be told; we'd give our EYETEETH to have fun like the rest of the world!)
Hope this helps.
On the other hand; I respect your ability to recognize a need & seek to fulfill it in a healthy way.
2006-11-12 05:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, of course it's not a sin, but it certainly isn't fair either. You're setting yourself up to fall, and tempting yourself and your boyfriend beyond reasonable limits. You may think you're doing the right thing, but you're only going to get a reputation as being a tease. It's not a fair thing to do, and you'll eventually give in.
2006-11-12 05:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is best to wait till your married.
Is your bf willing to ask you to marry? There has to be commitment of some sort.
Kissing & making out under covers is sex. It is called foreplay
Thou shalt not commit adultery / fornications. That means sex with someone other than ones spouse or future spouse.
2006-11-12 05:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by t a m i l 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is not a sin. It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. There is nothing wrong with snuggling up close to another human being.
2006-11-12 05:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. It's fine. As long as it doesn't lead to anything sexual, it's fine. As far as a Bible verse is concerned, there is none on this.
2006-11-12 05:09:16 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
this is something only you can answer. To ask everyone is to open to debate and opinions. You already have doubts or you would not need to ask. You are wise enough to make this decision on your own since its a personal matter between you and your friend
2006-11-12 05:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by maybe 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋