Well, I am asking should I take my children who will be 21/2 and 1 on the cruise. My father sexually molested 3 different people including me. My mom wants me to leave the children with her and my dad says he has learned his lesson, I don't really think so. So should I take the children or should I just stay home. I already bought the tickets. My children are more important. Should I take them or stay home? I don't want to leave them with my mom, and many people are convincing me to do so. The cruise is supposed to be a family reunion on my in law side. I would hate to leave my children, please help!
2006-11-12 04:56:05 · 15 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
DO NOT leave you children with your father, trust your instincts. I don't even have any *real* reason to not trust my father-in-law and yet I will not let my husband take my baby there without me.
I would take them, if that is an option I think they would probably have a great time. Many cruise ships have daycares and whatnot, plus is sounds like there will be lots of in-laws to keep them happy! I am sure your in-laws would love it if you brought the kids!
If, however, you can not take them with you for some reason and you can not find someone you trust to care for them (not your mom) then you should stay home.
2006-11-12 05:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not leave your children with a recovering pedophile. There's no such thing.
You must have other friends or relatives? Someone from church? A neighbor? Friends from a playgroup?
Or you can take them. All cruise lines have certified babysitters so you can still do some "adult" stuff without the kids.
2006-11-12 07:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the children. All the cruise ships I've been on have licensed child care, so that you can balance time with the children and time away, for yourself. Look into it. You'll be pleasantly surprised.
Hard and fast rule: NEVER leave your children in a situation you are not 100% comfortable with. Never.
I can't believe you're even considering leaving your defenseless babies with a known child molester, especially YOUR molester. You father failed to protect you. Your mother failed to protect you from him. Do not fail your own children.
As for your father "learning his lesson," has his psychotherapist given him a clean bill of mental health? If he has not been successfully treated for his deviant disorder(s), there is no way on God's earth I would for one minute consider allowing him to be in the same room with my children. And even them I would be extremely leary, given the potential for life-long mental, physical and pschological damage. YOU are your children's defender and protector. Defend and protect them.
You are the parent here. You hold all the cards. If your molester and his enabler (your father and mother) try to pressure you into allowing him the opportunity to molest your babies, respond as aggresively as if they were pressuring you to allow them to run over your babies with a car. And when those "many people" try to convince you, tell them you're not leaving your babies with a child molester and you don't care if it pisses off the President! Keep in mind that God has entrusted YOU with your babies' safety and welfare, and that is your top priority.
2006-11-12 05:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by godsgirl5263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them with you. You'll know where they are every minute of the day/night and that would be a weight of your mind then eh? Enjoy the cruise and the reunion with your children!
2006-11-12 05:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
properly im happening my first cruise quickly and im 23 so i dont particularly be conscious of the constraints b/c unwell be waiting to drink so i didnt study all that under 21 nonsense this is on the internet sites yet once you flow to the carnival cruises website and flow for the time of the motions like your reserving on line it says stuff approximately being under 21.study that and you need to get some inisight.From what i understand regardless of the undeniable fact that as long as your 18 you may party,only no longer drink for sure.
2016-12-28 19:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your children. You will be able to have a better time not having to worry about their wellfair. Most of the cruises I have been on have babysitters, and lots of activities for children to do.
2006-11-12 09:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by courtney a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absoultely not leave your children with your father. If he did it once he will do it again. Can you honestly live eith yourself if you went on a fun cruise and left the kids with them and something happened. take the kids with you. You may not be able to party all night but at least they will be safe, a cruise can be fun wiht babies- I took mine on one
2006-11-12 04:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by baileysmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LEAVE YOUR CHILDREN HOME WITH A CHILD MOLESTER.. they never change. Besides.. wont your inlaws want to see the babies? Take them with you and have a great time.
2006-11-12 06:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the childern i know it may cost more money but thats not worth the emotional cost your childern could suffer through and besides the in laws would love the kids. it's the safest thing to do.
2006-11-12 04:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by eliteprotectionofficer 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience i say take the kids with you. their protection is more inportant. my step grandfather did this to my mom and to my aunts when they were kids and he's never been "cured". matter of fact about 70% of those interviewed in prison say they will never stop if they are released.
something else to think about..... on average EACH pedophile strikes 148 times in their lifetime. think about how it made you feel and how you still feel, don't subject your kids to it.
2006-11-12 05:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by gardener24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋