all my boyfriends have cheated and im scared that my boyfriend is doing the same, i have no signs really, but i just think he is! is it just me being paranoild! please help
2006-11-12 04:49:47 · 15 answers · asked by charlotte slater 23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if they all cheat on you........then I'd step back and look at all you do as you might be either causing it or just picking the wrong guys in the first place.
without proof it means you are paranoid.
2006-11-12 04:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you aren't even giving him a chance. If you have a reason to think he is cheating on you then question it. If not then don't. Just because you have had a bad experience in the past doesn't mean you will have one with this relationship. I had a boyfriend that would always ask exactly where I was and what I was doing and who I was with and so on because he had been cheated on by every girl he ever dated. He made me feel like he didn't even think about trusting me. I agree that trust is earned, but some has to be blind. Anyway what I'm getting at is that you need to either trust him or not. Get over what happened in the past. That is what ended my relationship, by the way. I felt like I should be cheating since he always figured I was.
2006-11-12 04:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have every right to be concerned but not overly concerned to the point where it's all u think about or the mere idea of him doing it consumes you. Just explain to him you fear and let him know in the early that no cheating will be tolerated and if he should cheat or u catch him cheating, then it's over. Tell him that u love him but ur not gonna tolerate any nonsense. Make sure u take excellent care of him and be patient with him.
2006-11-12 05:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no signs then you ARE just being paranoid. Since all the men in your life have cheated on you, your mind is going to try and convince you that this one is too..Just put the negative thoughts out and have a talk to your BF, and explain your past and maybe he can do something special to convince you...GOODLUCK!
2006-11-12 04:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason making a fuss about it unless you have some reason to believe he is. As it is, you are just being paranoid. Don't be too quick to accuse if you don't have any justification. Trust is a big thing in a relationship and you'd probably offend him big time to accuse him of cheating if he really cares about you.
2006-11-12 04:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have been hurt by so many in the past you have developed paranoia. Don't let this show to your present b/f. Trust is very important in a relationship. Soon he will win your trust, if it is truly there to be won. If you see no signs to make you worry about it, then take it day by day. And each day be thankful you have some one who really cares about you as much as you care about him.
2006-11-12 04:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately with your past experiences you have your reasons to doubt, but it does not mean the present is also cheating. don't be paranoid. you dint want to loose somebody without any reason. Infact you will never have a steady relationship.
2006-11-12 04:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows but why bother dragging your issues into each relationship? why bother finding a new love if you're still connected to all your old ones.life is for living and learning and loving.some times it's good, sometimes not so good,live and give your choice a chance or make better choices.you are the one who picks these cheaters so what's up with your choice making ?
2006-11-12 04:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have no reason 2 think so id have 2 say youre bein paranoid
2006-11-12 04:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's no way to say nothing to go on,just keep an eye on him.If you start accusing you will lose him.
2006-11-12 04:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋