What are some good resources for parenting a difficult 3.5 year old?

Question

I have two children, ages 1.5 and 3.5. My 3.5 year old is really challenging us lately. He's very stubborn, whiny, almost unpleasant to be around.

I think we are ineffective parents because we are not on the same "team". We parent differently and neither method is working. I care very much about my son's well-being and feel that he needs us to be a team. Can anyone reccomend a book, resource... anything that we might be able to do/work on together to help us work through this time?

Thanks!

Answer 1

Maybe you've seen his column in your newspaper. He is carried by many newspapers as a regular column. His is a very common sense approach.
http://rosemond.com/index.php

Answer 2

Here are some great parenting books:

Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower
The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears
The Successful Child by Dr. Sears
Kid Cooperation by Pantley
Kids, Parents & Power Struggles by Kurcinka
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Faber & Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber & Mazlish
Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen

(And I have to give a big "ICK!" to the recommendation for John Rosemond!)

Answer 3

my husband an i ahve three kids 5, 3 and 7weeks. Are five and three year old were ginving us a major problem and we were doing two different mthods at once and they were not working so we talked to there doctor and she told us to do one method first so you need to get on the same page if you want anything to work.

Answer 4

This is a list of the best links that I have found.

http://www.pottytrainingsite.com/links.htm

Answer 5

try these sites to help you not everything works for all kids....... good luck!
http://kidshealth.org/parent/
http://www.ncld.org/
http://www.kidsource.com/