About 4 months ago i finally noticed i had feelings for my best friend and he has a girlfriend who's in college. He didn't have a date for a dance so i asked him if he wanted to come with me, he said sure and we met up at the dance and had a great time. His gf asked how it was and he told her he had a great time, she got mad and they broke up. He begged to get her back and they're together again, but she hates my guts. I didn't talk to him for a while cause i felt guilty that i broke them up, he noticed this and came up to me and asked if everything was alright. i told him i felt guilty that he and his gf broke up and he said there's more to that isn't there? And i said yes, i feel guilty that i like you. He said don't feel bad cause i liked you too for a little bit and then cause i was having a great time with you. He knows i still like him, but i'm keeping these feelings inside and i don't know what to do. I really love him, and in school he walks me to class and hugs me all the time
2006-11-12 04:06:13 · 12 answers · asked by Caitie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the same situation from the time I was 11 til I was about 20. I realized that no matter how much I liked/ loved him, it could never work out between us. Things are so good with us being friends. We know each other in and out and have always been there for each other no matter what. Everyone needs that type of person in their life. Feel good about the friendship you have and Dont feel bad about them breaking up. She did that, not you! You have to keep it in your head that you were there before her and you will be there after her. I've seen my best friend with plenty of girlfriends, they alllllll hated me because we were so tight. He said they told him after they broke up that they were jealous of me because whenever I called, he was there. Dont feel guilty, be happy that your best friend's gf knows that you are in his life and you'll be there when he needs you, just like at the dance :) hope this helps :)
2006-11-12 04:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by A.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on him, the weakling is toying with your affections. A gentleman would step back and remove his tempting self from your reaches. In time things may change, but 'till then, only you can take charge of your feelings . . . by protecting them at this stage of the game (make distance betwixt you two).
Focus on the long-term, not the desires of the present. Let his relationship with gf run its course. He'll remember your integrity and perhaps 'step up to the plate' later. Maybe he'll choose to try to be with you AND won't date some female friend when you're unavailable (or are you strong enough to not be bothered?).
2006-11-12 04:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU didn't break them up. His gf being unreasonable is the problem. If you two didn't do anything, there is NO problem. Yes, no matter what your feelings were behind it. It's HIS feelings that matter in HIS relationship. It's ok to like eachother.
Besides, what if you two were meant to be together?
Just ask him what he thinks about you two hooking up. If his gf is giving him problems, he may just dump her for good.
2006-11-12 04:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not try to imagine how it would feel if you were his gf and the other girl was doing what your doing. You know what I mean? There are plenty of people in the world.
2006-11-12 04:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have feelings for each other, you have to remember he went back to his girlfriend. So back off. just stay his friend, you never know what may happen between them, and as a friend, you will be their to pick up the pieces.
2006-11-12 04:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad becouse you went to a dance with you best friend! And if they broke up I am sure it wasnt because of you1
2006-11-12 04:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Katie boys are a big mystery and i feel you because i used to like a boy that i was very close to but i didn't know how to express it to him , but now were just friends because those feelings past... but if these feelings don't pass for you you need to tell him that ,and if he still doesn't feel the same you need to move on, that's the only way
2006-11-12 04:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by pretty lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, If you know you love him, and him and his girlfriend are broken up, then tell him you love him. Ask him out, or ask him if he has feelings for you because if he has already broken up with her and he's not mad at you, then that means he's over her and it's your turn!!!
P.S- Dont be shy, because if you love him, you cant hold back.
2006-11-12 04:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give in babe. Nothing better than sweet surrender. What are you waiting for? Without risk life would be so boring. Then you wouldnt be happy. Good luck.
2006-11-12 04:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just experience the love going through you and be elevated by that love and work on turning this love towards yourself.
2006-11-12 04:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by elflocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋