Everything what my father says, i react very bad. I don't know why, I'm trying to be nice and not to critizice him, but he trats me like i don't know anything... how to stop being angry all the time?
2006-11-12 03:47:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have read your past questions and your answers. It seems that you have problems with all men in your life and I suspect that it all comes down to a negative relationship with your father. This could be because of his relationship with your mother or with you directly.
If you are still in school, I suggest that you talk to your school counselor. He/She can be a good person to explore these feelings with. If you are out of school, maybe you can talk to someone at your church if you are religious. If not, then I think you need to just directly approach your father and see if you can clearly explain what he has done or is doing that seems to bother you so much. It is possible that he just doesn't realize what he is doing.
While of course I have no clue, it is my guess that your father is a very strict man who dominates your family. It is my guess that no one else in your family (your mother, you, or siblings if any) has much say over what happens and you're having a problem accepting this. I guess you think that Dad needs to give other some control over things that happen instead of being a complete ruler.
What do you think? Am I close or way off?
2006-11-12 04:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are at an age where you think you don't need advice. There isn't a soul out there that has all the experience in the world. Listen to what he has to say, without arguing, really listen. Then tell him thank you for the advice I will think about it. Maybe, just maybe, he may say something of value to you is you would only hear him.
2006-11-12 11:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
ur so angry with him cos u don't wanna take it easy with him.The best thing to solve this problem is to calm down,sit with him,discuss everything and stop being angry and tell him that what we both are doing is wrong.If you don't do so right now this problem will not stop and it will remain on and on if you don't do what I said.He treats you like you donno nothing cos ur acting like a small kid,you shoud take it easy with him and tell him why is he being angry and treating you like you donno nothing and discuss everything with him..And if he tells you something don't reply back angrily and so on just calm down take it easy and so on..If you don't do so this problem will keep on growing day after another untill one day u both are gonna kill each other I assum..
2006-11-12 11:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel this way about my parents. I just try to spend less time around them if I'm angry. Maybe you could try not talking to him as much if he's just going to be condescending every time you do.
2006-11-12 11:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by leena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about a life without him, and remember that even when he is being SO ANNOYING, that he has your best interest at heart. And he will be one of the precious few men you will meet in this lifetime that honestly does.
2006-11-12 11:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dearest. start by first of all admitting that your really dont now nothing. your dad is right. you cann't even spell correctly. then get enrolled on a course. doesn't have to be an english one. remember, practice makes perfect. do that and anger will go. works like magic
2006-11-12 11:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by glowing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to decide whether you really feel that it is worth the rotton feelings you get or not....pick and choose what you are going to let upset you and just let the rest slide off your back! good luck! LIfe is too short to get upset over silly things!
2006-11-12 11:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Carrot girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just roll with his answers. maybe try to give him someof his own medicine.
he might treat you tha way because he does not have the time to clean u after you if you make a mistake. try to keep that in mind..
2006-11-12 13:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by cmccdb@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just something inside you, that you don't like him.Happen to my friend too.But she got over with it...So I hope you wil get over with it too....
Good luck!
2006-11-12 11:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by xoxo§kailey§ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's putting you down cut him out of your life.
2006-11-12 11:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by LaLa N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋