Hurt, crushed, broken and rotting away, i know im not alone, any advice?

Question

No friends, Supportive parents but they dont understand, and the girl i trusted with my life betrayed and left me.
No friends = I do try to make friends in many ways, and sometimes just go with the flow, but i never click with anyone, and lose the person who i was talkin to anyway! I changed schools so many times so i dnt have old school friends, started university, made 1 awesome friend, but even he changed univerisity and now is in another country, tho still in touch. I talk to other university people in class, but screwing around, and getting drunk is the only thing in everyones mind.
I believed in 1 love forever, but i been broken since 3 really serious relationships ended. Cant trust girls again, ever. They are either pretty and stupid or whatever. Plus, girls have no values these days anyway, even the most innocent has something slutty in her.

what the hell is wrong with me? why am i not a typical guy? im losing my mind, diagnosed with depression, and im losing it

is there light at the end of the tunnel? is there such thing as love? is there such thing as an honest person left? have i really gone mad? my head hurts thinking of it. I get nervous breakdowns. Doctor even said i should be admited to hospital for therapy, but it will make me worse, they will just brainwash me and force me to think positive, but whats the point of thinking positive when everything is so negative?
Only reason i am alive right now, is i dont want my parents to suffer if i killed myself. I cant make them suffer, they try so hard for me, to understand me. So im a alive, but dead, but can feel pain.

okay i dont know why i even asked this on yahoo answers

Answer 1

You should go back to your doctor. You may need to adjust or change your meds.
Hang in there, dude--maybe you're just a loner! I don't have many friends, but I don't feel the need to, either.
As for the girls, they obviously weren't your soul mate. You WILL meet the right one, but you have to be open to it.

I'm pulling for you!

Answer 2

It is difficult to have someone and then watch them slip away whether they are girlfriend or just a friend. You have your whole life ahead of you and since you are at University you need to make the best of it. You have an opportunity that not everybody gets or can handle academically. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with you. You have come this far and one day you are going to get to that place where you feel that when you look back on this time you are going to wonder why you worried in the first place. Everything in your life is an experience whether good or bad. Those exgirlfriends are a part of your past. Acknowledge what happened and move on with your life. The worst experiences in your life are the ones that build strength and character. They are the ones you can tell your children about when they struggle. I ask you not to let any of your problems drag you down. Stay strong!!!

"There will be mountains that I will have to climb
And there will be battles that I will have to fight
But victory or defeat, it's up to me to decide
But how can I expect to win If I never try.

I just can't give up now
I've come too far from where I started from
Nobody told me the road would be easy
and I don't believe he brought me this far to leave me

Never said there wouldn't be trials
Never said I would't fall
Never said that everything would go the way I want it to go
But when my back is against the wall
And i feel all hope is gone,
I'll just lift my head up to the sky
And say help me to be strong

No you didn't bring me out here to leave me lonely
Even when I can't see clearly
I know that you are with me"

Answer 3

You asked this on Yahoo answers because you still have a need to try to communicate. To express. To connect. To be understood. Right?

Brainwashed into thinking positive? What makes you think that you haven't brainwashed yourself into thinking negative? :) No lie; therapists are people, and the patient-therapy relationship is interpersonal, and it is therefore subject to the complications of all professional relationships: teachers, doctors, lawyers, etc. But the goal of therapy (whether a given therapist helps you achieve it or not) is to see things realistically. It is appropriate to feel pain when a relationship ends badly. But it's also appropriate for the pain to subside after a few weeks, for you to enjoy other things in your life, to have self-confidence, to not feel "doomed," etc.

I can totally relate to not connecting with people. I am eccentric, and like-minded people are hard to find. I was also discouraged by the fact that I seemed to always lose touch with people I did connect with. My family moved around, so I changed schools, too. During high school I found some like-minded people online, but I didn't have any power to meet them, and they would drift away. I went to a college that did have a lot of smart, interesting people, which was a very good thing for me, although I didn't find the people I *really* felt connected with until senior year.

It can definitely be tricky to meet the right people... but they ARE out there. May have to look in places where you'd find people with similar interests (student organizations, local events, or even online though preferably sites designed to get people together locally). You've not in a good place right now, but "right now" does not translate into "forever." (Positive thinking: Life is great, la la la! Negative thinking: Life sucks, moan, groan. Rational thinking: Life changes over time, kk?)

I don't believe in one love forever. I stopped because I had more than one love, and they weren't forever. It's not All - or - Nothing. The problem with forcing an all-or-nothing standard on things is that it sabotages even those things which can turn out well, given some time and working on it. Life's not a tunnel to find a light at the end of, it's just life. Depression makes it seem that way; I've been there. I don't experience it as something that can be conquered with some naive "happy thoughts" or whatnot, but as something to be unravelled, like steadily untying a very big mess of a knot.

Yes, there is love, there is honesty, there are people you will click with. By no means should you trust everyone you meet (girls or guys), but it would be a shame to miss out on those you can. It's OK to be discerning about your doctor/therapist/whoever, too, but important to take your time in coming to conclusions an be open. Therapy and medications have been VERY important to me in managing my depression, and have helped me to become a far more level-headed person, to deal with the painful bits, and enjoy the good bits. But it wasn't the FIRST therapist or the FIRST medication, either. Not all or nothing.

Hope this helps. (---a phrase that rings empty in your sordid ears, echoing in your barren soul, I know. ;)

But best wishes anyway.

Answer 4

No .. you are definitely not alone.. I didnt want to party in college either.. and can count all the friends made in my life on my one hand. Keep talking to your therapist and maybe knocking the meds up a little wouldnt hurt..get out once a day into the fresh air.
And stay away from negative people. Its the very last thing you need. Sorry the relationships havent worked alot of people feel like you. Today may seem glum and maybe tom but plz have you ever said God can u plz help me out here ..I was once you I wanted to end my life. Plz try to stay positive and I will say prayer for u also ..yes we long for love and need to be held I agree also a woman just even few years older is settled and ready to love even more than some little girl..Have you ever considered a little older ..also smarter men have been dating older for centuries its just not told in history cause it is so taboo. Shakespeares Love of his life was older. but hey I met a friend through internet we talk alot well use to..but if u need someone to talk to come talk to me..believe me its only dark once in awhile I feel crushed myself..hey one good thing you cant crush whats already crushed! Right ..keep your chin up.. Oh and most of all your not crazy your normal..c ya..

Answer 5

WHOA !!!!! slow down
pick your self up and dust yourself off man... you need a reality check ... not all girls have slutty things in them and if they are portraying sexy as slutty ..you can thank the media for that.. everything is focused on sex

You are broken hearted and feeling alone.. the only thing you can do is keep going... and not look for love.. it will find you again when you least expect it.. you just need to be open to it.. do your homework and relax .. smile at people and be open and friendly and you will make friends.. hang out in study halls or libraries .. where you are bound to attract people like yourself that want to learn and study... there are lots of smart girls out there and she may not be the most beautiful girl on the outside but she is bound to be a a fabulous woman on the inside...

btw
You are a typical guy.... it is just you care to let your feelings show... unlike some other guys who drink or party to forget and act like they don't care

Answer 6

Just go about life go ahead and buy some stuff if you want the thing that needs to happen is you need to feel good about being you believe me i have been there just make sure you feel good about being you go have fun and just party as far as friends you will only have a select few truly good friends everyone else is just passing through as your friend and that special girl will come to you you just gotta take your mind off it for right now and before you know it that girl will be at your doorstep asking you if you want a relationship so dont worry it will all happen for you you just gotta be patient i know its hard trust me

Answer 7

It's wonderful that you believe in 1 love forever, but don't think that every girl you get into a relationship with is that person. Maybe you come off to serious that way. Have some fun, ease up. Quit looking for the perfect wife, and be comfortable in having a fun companion.

Answer 8

If you are diagnosed with depression that must mean you have sought help that is a good thing. Keep talking to someone about how you are feeling. Friendship and Love come in it's own time. In my humble opinion, the things you should concentrate on are what makes you happy. Find an activity you truly enjoy and go with it. Join a club, league, group that interests you. You will find friends who share your interest and in time will find the person you are suppose to be with. Wishing you the best..

Answer 9

wow, you sound like me in my low days. I cant' tell you things will get better, bc i don't kno. But trust me, girls say the exact same thing about guys, and really, wut the hell is a typical guy? He doesn't exist, trust me. The only thing I can tell is that no, your not alone and your sure as hell not crazy. You normal, bc youve been hurt in the past, and this is the pain your feel. And that's okay. But not matter how hurt you are, there IS someone out there for you, it's up to you to trust in finding her. I hope you get a bit more hope, and feel free to email me if you need anything. Good luck.

Answer 10

i feel the same way in life. it's hard to have friends in the world today because everyone is selfish. men - women- everybody. that's where the depression comes in. there's probably nothing wrong with you it's probably the people you choose to trust. i don't trust many people but the ones i do always end up hurting me. you're lucky to be rid of the girls that have hurt you. and it's probably good you're not a typical guy because they are worthless. i know - that's what I always end up with.