I asked my gf to leave after 5 yrs of perefect relation for some acute issues in family. She cried n requested not to leave but I was adament. She was disturbed but keep convincing me few months. Later I realized my mistake and managed the situation in family and back to her door after 6 months. I apologies and cried for my mistake. She was inclined towards me, but she didn't say yes. To avoid uncomfortable feeling, I gave some time to her so that we be comfortable again.She didn't inform that someone else was after her in my absence.
Next month I got to know thru her friend that she just moved on with that guy. she didnt tell me. I'm trying to convince her but she is not listening. She is saying that I left her for my family and the other guy helped her during tough time and since she has given her words, she can't come back to me.That guy introduced his family to her so she is bound. Wht shud I do?I love her.She shud have informed me so that I'd not hve given time after coming back
2006-11-12 03:34:12 · 17 answers · asked by Ronnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is a tough one. i understand both sides. if during your 5yr relationship, you couldn't communicate with each other openly, and without arguing about the issues which plagued the two of you then, then this relationship was doomed from the beginning. i don't think that you blew the relationship, just the blew the opportunity to enhance it. i know your gf has moved on, but maybe you could speak to her on a friend-to-friend basis only, because if you keep pushing, the more she will find comfort with the other guy. relationships take time. she's on the rebound from being a backseat driver to your family. if you believe in God, pray and follow your heart and your senses. but be true to yourself first and fight whether it be an old relationship or a new one. keep your head up and in the process you will grow up.
2006-11-12 03:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by n s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. I'm sorry things happened that way.
If she has moved on, I don't think there's anything you can do but move on yourself. I know that's not the answer you want, but sometimes, we have to accept that we can't change another person's mind.
Sometimes, things happen the way they do because they weren't meant to be. If you love her, you have to trust her that she knows what's best for her.
Maybe she didn't tell you about it because she knew it would break your heart, and she didn't want to hurt you. That was her mistake. She should have been upfront with you.
When my last relationship ended (it was mostly mutual), I was devastated. I thought he was the one I was going to marry. I spent months trying to get him back, but he didn't love me anymore. It's the best thing that ever happened to me. A year later, I met someone who was much better for me. I learned a lot from my former relationship, and I'm still learning. I'm glad it happened, but if you'd have asked me then, I was miserable.
Either way, she has moved on, and you need to as well. Spend some time alone, thinking about what you did in life before you met her. Enjoy the things you enjoy most (like hobbies and such) alone, and regain yourself. It will make the transition of letting her move on a lot easier.
I really hope you'll be OK. My best to you.
2006-11-12 03:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have hurt her bad when you pushed her away. She needed someone to talk to and ended up falling for this man she is with now.. It might not be genuine, (you know what they say about rebound relationships?) As long as you have told her how you feel, you should leave it at that. that way she can make her own decisions. She might really Love this man. Or she might come back to you. Give her some time. She did that for you!!!
2006-11-12 03:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by samiam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go,you are fighting a losing battle.
The best thing you can do is to use reverse phycology ,that might work..what do i mean?
Call her and congratulate her and tell her that she deserves the best and tell her that you are sorry that you could not live up to her expectations(even if you are not),women love to hear I am sorry to know that they are right..women are always right don't you know..
oh by the way..women I hope you don't read this..this is men's secrets being revealed.
Whatever you do..don't beg !
After you call her ,act upbeat,wish her the best and quickly say you have to get going and hang up.that's it simple!
go on with your life..I am betting that within a week you will get a phone call..good luck.
2006-11-12 03:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry man but this sound like a case of "you didnt know what you had till its gone", and now its gone, five years is a long time to be with someone, im sure she still has feelings for you but you hurt her really bad, its probably complicated, but how could you tell someone to just leave after five years of a perfect relationship? i think you have a chance at getting her back, but only if it doesnt work out with the new guy
2006-11-12 03:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by aj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things happen and people move on after unhappy break ups. Continue to give her space and respect her wishes. If it is meant to be, you could get back together someday, but not this day. Go on with your life. if you see her out in public, speak and move on. Don't do anything that will cause yourself more pain.
2006-11-12 03:40:40 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
motives why she is moody is as a results of the fact she isn't happy to be with you. the only rationalization why she hasn't spoke of because it quits is as a results of the fact alot of girls want a extreme high quality guy like your self to cater to her ego . You says you pick her - do you recommend for intercourse ? I say bypass cheat on her and notice in case you will detect a extra valuable piece of poon . you're whipped. it's time to unwhip your self out of your crabby gf
2016-10-17 04:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know how much you miss a person until they are gone. You gave her up and now she has moved on. You can't blame anyone but yourself. Good luck and stay out of her new relationship because it will only make you look dumb.
2006-11-12 03:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you're the one who told her to leave so she doesn't have to tell you anything about what's going on in her life. it's her life, if she wants to live with someone else, that's her business, not yours. there's nothing you can do to get her back. i wouldn't want to be with someone who broke up with me after 5 years for a family problem that has nothing to do with me. that's one of those issues where you have to sit down and think if you really want to be with that person for the rest of your life. i guess she doesn't want you anymore. let her be happy and move on.
2006-11-12 03:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever, Apu. You effed up and now your paying the price. You deserve NO consideration, because you initiated the whole break up to begin with. IF you DIDN'T break up with her, you two would still be speaking broken English to each other right this second.
2006-11-12 03:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋