I've started emailing a girl. We both live in the UK and are quite close geographically.
I would like to meet up with the lady in question but have no idea how to go about asking her if she would like to meet up sometime.
Has anyone got any ideas/suggestions on how I go about it?
2006-11-12 02:53:18 · 18 answers · asked by b9721005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not meet just yet. You need t spend atleast a week talking on the phone. You need to make sure that the other person is who they say they are and, apart from physically meeting them, this is the best way. It's easier to make up answers and stories through email. This will also help her feel more comfortable as well. Please get to know each other on the phone first.
2006-11-12 02:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lynda M ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you shouldn't. The track record for that type of thing hasn't been very good.
Consider the consequences. It could be bad for either of you.
As a male asking an assumed woman to meet, you also runt he risk of being labeled a predator. I'd wait on that, if anything.
Have you any confirmation that this IS a woman?
Worst case scenario, it's not a woman at all, but someone setting up a man for what could be horrible events. You probably didn't want that little image, but it could happen.
Also, be sure that this supposed person is identified as being of age. Here in the states, we had about 12 men set up for conviction like this: these adult men communicated via internet with what they thought to be underage females. They eventually set up meetings with these "girls" who turned out to be government agents. Not cute little underage girls at ALL.
Be careful.
This could be way worse than just meeting a person and finding out that you aren't really attracted to them.
Don't be the one to ask,anyway. That covers you, in a sense.
2006-11-12 11:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bite the bullet and ask her, and I'm sure she's aware that you may suggest this eventually as it would be unrealistic to never meet up for real. There are some really good tips from people on here- meet in a public place etc, so follow those and be confident!! If it was me and i liked you then i would be flattered! Good luck!!
2006-11-12 11:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by JFC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask through email for her phone number and chat and text for a couple of weeks, then ask would she like to meet for a coffee or meal. If she wants to wait for a while, sort something for some other time.
Go for it though cos it might be the best thing to happen to you.
I met my bf after we'd emailed for a few weeks and we've been together for four years now and are planning our wedding.
Good luck!
2006-11-12 10:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by kookie_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my man that way. We met here on "answers" and started to email. After a week we were IMing each other 4-6 hours a day. A week later we were phoning each other, then we decided to meet. We chose a safe spot half-way between our cities and met in a public place. We have been together ever since.
2006-11-12 10:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right I met my boyf on the internet in a chat room a month later we went from the chat room to emailing then after another month we swapped mobile numbers and texted after one more month we met up in april 2003 we spent 48 hrs together after our first meeting and now over three years on we have bought a house together.
Ask her if she wants to meet and go from there best of luck and it can work if you are right for each other.
2006-11-12 11:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply say:
"Hey, why don't we meet up? Let's have a coffee or a drink one weekend and see whether we like each other..."
Or:
"I'd really like to meet you before we get so into e-mailing we never dare meet in person. Let's have a coffee next Saturday...?"
If she turns you down, you'll know there is something wrong with her and she wants to keep the relationship strictly pen-pals. Try! Good luck.
2006-11-12 11:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by simon2blues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start by talking about your favorite spots then perhaps go to those spots first alone to get a feel about them then off-handed say I have been thinking about visiting this place could suggest a place of interest there,or would you be possibly willing to meet me there and show me the points of interest
2006-11-12 11:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by photog50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already emailing her so why don`t you casually ask her if she feels like she would like to meet up, but make it on her terms to make her feel more comfortable with the idea, as long as the terms aren`t that outrageous.
2006-11-12 11:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by dnlrawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depend on the level on each of you want to meet-up, if your e-mail relationship has grow to a certain level, that she and you to is willing to meet with her just let her know my same email,
i have contacted friends through this in which we still meeting up till now, once she trusted you and you trusted her too iust invite her for a dinner, lunch or outing that you can meet in place, and that it goes
if she want to meet with you she will answer and give you her shecdules and plane so that you can fix a day, time.
well good luck as you meet with her
2006-11-12 11:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by phemmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋