all it takes is one eyelash to be out of place or a wrinkle on her lip and i am no longer turned on and attracted to a woman ... how did i get to be so superficial?
God knows, i am not perfect BUT you better be!
2006-11-12 02:31:28 · 25 answers · asked by zigzagidiot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey your right!! - this question makes me sound gay!!! umm not that there is anything wrong with that! but me?..no!
2006-11-12 02:38:57 · update #1
ok the "eyelash" was a TOTAL exaggeration to make my point ....sheesh! it is more just imperfections ...humanness...girls burping...no make up...aging....body smells..etc.
2006-11-12 02:48:44 · update #2
Do you want to be the shallowest person on earth? Age has caused you to feel less confident about your own outward appearance ...so you now project the fallacy of perfection onto the object of your desire. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. As you vision blurrs, with age you will see more from your heart, and perhaps, ( if you are wise enough) realize" perfect" will be a vision rather than a definition, or check list....
2006-11-12 04:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I have to admit you sound very shallow if you expect someone else to be perfect. Because no one can live up to being perfect all the time. Oh the pressure.
So what happens when the eyelash is back in place. Is she attractive again? Or do you just go on to someone else?
Also what if someone you have been seeing for a while has a bad eyelash day? Do you drop her or give her a second chance?
With this type of attitude good luck finding a long term mate. On the other hand there are enough other shallow people in the world you may be able to find someone just like you. But watch out the first time you have an bad eyelash day. She may drop you like a hot potato
Good luck
2006-11-12 02:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe it goes deeper than physical looks. Maybe you do this because you are scared to get close to them. So you subcontiously find another reason to be turned away from her.
Or maybe you are looking for that perfect girl that they show on tv and in magazines all the time. Which will NEVER happen. Those girls get airbrushed, and perfect lighting and their own personal make up artists. if you watch America's Next Top Model, you will see, NO ONE is perfect. Hopefully you will find a girl that you like so much that nothing can turn you away, not even a wrinkle on her lip.
2006-11-12 02:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, introspection (self-examination) or asking questions about yourself, is a step towards depth. Many haven't taken their superficiality even this far.
It sounds like you have typical male "fear of commitment". One of the most common side-effects is to find faults in all potential mates, thus dismissing them easily.
If you don't give up your unrealistic approach you'll probably die single and unhappy. That's your choice.
You could also be suffering a form of Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). Hey, I am not trying to insult you, just trying to help. I have OCD when it comes tom my appearance.
I can't imagine what your sex life must be like. How do you procreate without crossing an eyelash or exposing a wrinkle.
Nobody has flawless skin or appearance, NO ONE!
2006-11-12 02:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to be the same way to a degree, although not quite to your extreme. BUT I do tend to end up wanting a short time after a relationship starts. I think it's my steps of emotion for me. I see a girl that at the very least is ********. Then I persue said girl, and after a few months I realize as nice as this little dog and pony show was, it wasn't what I really wanted. Not NOW, anyways. People can change their minds, right? Too bad I always have to change my mind.
2006-11-12 02:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most generally when we don't like a person or a characteristic of a person, we subconsciously see it in ourselves. Maybe if you take a step back and look seriously at yourself and the character flaws that you have, you can correct this problem. You are not shallow, but you may have a lot to work on within yourself.
2006-11-12 02:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
up bringing,,what kind of remarks did u family make in the past?
would u prefer a plastic coated person--plastic surgery.
so ur very critical,,hmm,,what if u matty a perfect looking woman and shes a real nag? on the other hand u may grow out of it..how old r u?
2006-11-12 02:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it superficiality or obsession?
If this plagues you throughout life you better be good looking enough to attract young women because no one can remain perfect. People age.
2006-11-12 02:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are superficial, you just know what you find attractive and what turns you off... Theres nothing wrong with that... Just try to be a little less judgemental especially since you've acknowledged that your not perfect...
2006-11-12 02:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by sum2000mayyah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is pretty shallow but its just your taste in women so there is nothing wrong with that, but just be prepared when you find the perfect girl that doesnt like you cuz ur not perfect, then you will see how you make all the imperfect girls feel.
2006-11-12 02:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by aprildarcie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋